I've been reading these blogs for some time now however have not worked up to asking for advice until now.... Here is my background: I am bio mom to two kids, one boy and one girl ages 9 and 5. I am stepmom to two kids, one boy and one girl ages 2 and 6. Both my husband and I share residential time of our children with their other parents in joint parenting plans. My husband and I have been together for 14 months and married for 3 months.