Its been 16 months!!!
And I still have not met DH's mother. BM is constantly over his mothers house but this should not be a reason for me to not have met his mother yet. One time we passed by DH's moms house to pick something up amd BM and DH's mother just stared me down and I stared right back. So tell me is there anyone else in this situation? What do you guys think about me not meeting DH mother yet?
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Let me get this straight
Your married but you haven't met your mother-in-law!? That's just crazy. What kind of relationship does your husband have with his mother? Does he see her on a regular basis? If so, the very next time he goes over he needs to take you with her. That's just insane.
No we are not married. Im
No we are not married. Im sorry i should be putting BF but I put DH because that is what everyone else puts here LOL. But no he is my boyfriend but we do live together and there are times that we go there to pick up SD and I just wait in the car. He has a normal relationship with his mother nothing big but there has been numerous times when we go there and I just wait in the car.
Let's get this straight...
*You've been together for 16 months
*You live together
*the BM STILL goes over her house (as you say "constantly")
Did I get that right? Am I missing something?
Honey, this is NOT right! The fact that BM STILL has a regular relationship with his mom and you are kept a "secret" for a better word. Something stinks here- bigtime.
"If you have never been hated by a child, you have never been a parent."
-Bette Davis
Yeah I thought so too. I try
Yeah I thought so too. I try to look for reasons why he hasnt introduced me. I mean his mom knows about me. she has known about me from the begining she has even met my son. She knows how his BM has been trying to screw him with the CS. I just dont understand it.
Wow. I don't get it either...
"She knows how his BM has been trying to screw him with the CS"
So BM is screwing over HER OWN SON and she still wants to be NICE to this woman? Man, that's messed up. I'm sorry about that. I don't know what else to say, except if I were your BF, I'd be royally pissed at my mom for continuing to have a relationship with this nasty woman.
"If you have never been hated by a child, you have never been a parent."
-Bette Davis
why not..
just go in and make it a situation that he has to introduce you? I would have to take the upper hand in this one. His mom could be thinking "of all the times she has been to my house and never came in??"
Just out of curiousity, what did happen the first time you went to her house? That should have been the day you met her...
The first time that we
The first time that we pulled up in front I waited in the car. and every other time after that. She has even come outside and looked right at me but nothing. Im not jsut going to walk in her house he needs to bring me in and introduce.
Gee, this is strange
"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere
As an adult child, many men I dated never met my parents...but you're living with him and haven't met Mom? Could it be that she's old school and considers him to be "living in sin" and won't accept that, and he's afraid to say so to you?
Maybe the holidays can give you the opportunity to force it.
Perhaps to want to deliver a little gift to her yourself?
Ask him.
"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere
Did you wait in the car outside his Mom's house because he told you to?
If you feel animosity coming from her (looked right at you but nothing) and she's never even met you, something is up.
Could still be that old school thinking about living together, but as she's pals with BM, there's probably more to it. And if he sees his Mom on a regular basis, I'm sure he knows exactly what's up with all this. Ask him.
I can understand that...
as she could have made the first step, and really, should have if she saw you in the car. It would have been a nice gesture on her part to make you feel comfortable at her home. I would definetly be asking him what the problem is!