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Submitted by JaeRandles on Tue, 02/16/2010 - 4:22pm

I dont know what my problem is. I am just so jealous of this whole situation I dont know what to do. My boyfriend, his wife, his kid, our family, which really isnt any sort of family. I just dont know what to do. I am so sick of the whole situation and I am simply turning into a hige bitch. It is wearing on the family. It is turning my nice kind man, into a beast, I am feeling tired and insecure, and terribly jealous. I just cant live another day like this. It is killing me, and I dont know what to do anymore.

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Submitted by Snowflake on Tue, 02/16/2010 - 4:50pm

You just need to take some "me" time and try to find what will make you happy. These people are not worth your sanity. That is what all the externals want... to break you up. And so please dont take it all so personally.

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Submitted by NewSM10 on Tue, 02/16/2010 - 6:46pm

I FEEL THE SAME WAY!!!!!!!!! I don't know what to do either. I am even more jealous b/c I desperately want a child with my BF/FH and some undeserving woman has his child. What is it that makes you feel the most jealous? That he has a child with another woman? that he has to have contact with his ex wife? you said his wife but I am hoping you mean ex wife. Luckily I don't have to deal with an ex or someone my FH cared about, one night stand. I don't think I could deal with having to look his ex wife in the face and play nice. Do you not feel like you have a good role in the "family" unit. I mean being "step mom" in the midst of mommy, daddy and kids...can not be easy. I feel like I really don't have a proper place even though FH really feels like SS8's step father. Please give more info. I think it would help if you open up about it. Hang in there!

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Submitted by Crizzle on Tue, 02/16/2010 - 7:00pm

I was wondering if it was supposed to be ex-wife instead of wife too.

"One should examine oneself for a very long time before thinking of condemning others." ~Moliere

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Submitted by Thetis on Tue, 02/16/2010 - 7:00pm

I am even more jealous b/c I desperately want a child with my BF/FH and some undeserving woman has his child

Ohhh I have SOOOOO been there!!! Omg the jealousy is enough to boil your blood eh? Grr where's the time machine so we can go back a straighten out our dhs before they get themselves into a lifetime of trouble!!!

Crizzle's picture

Submitted by Crizzle on Tue, 02/16/2010 - 8:47pm

She did mean WIFE and not ex-wife.

"One should examine oneself for a very long time before thinking of condemning others." ~Moliere

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Submitted by NewSM10 on Tue, 02/16/2010 - 6:52pm

Oh, and I know what you mean about your nice man turning into a beast. I feel like before I had this site to vent that I would just unload all of my anger, resentment, and insecure feelings onto him. He really has had enough of it at this point and has started yelling back. It really isn't fair for me to blame him for the mistakes he has made in the past but I can not help it. I wanted to blame someone for my pain and suffering. As I said before it must be worse if you are dealing with an ex wife. I guess they can only take enough of our complaining before they finally snap. Men just aren't wired the way we woman are and they can just shut off their feelings and not deal if something is bothering them. I wish I had that coping mechanism, I would be much better off.

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Submitted by Crizzle on Tue, 02/16/2010 - 7:36pm

So is she his wife or ex-wife?

"One should examine oneself for a very long time before thinking of condemning others." ~Moliere

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Submitted by Crizzle on Tue, 02/16/2010 - 8:46pm

First of all, it is a big mistake to get involved with anyone who is married and "going through a divorce". Until those papers are final their marriage isn't dissolved. How can you be jealous of his wife? I would leave his butt until that divorce is final. He will either stand up and be a man or crawl back to her. Either way, he needs to make his choice. I certainly wouldn't stand around and wait. But then I would never date someone who is already married either.

"One should examine oneself for a very long time before thinking of condemning others." ~Moliere

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Submitted by usade on Wed, 02/17/2010 - 3:04am

It sucks big time because he knows I don't just want kids because my biological clock is ticking; I want a kid/kids with HIM. He has two, and the fact that psychorella is as she is, and given the new problems with her latest separation, we couldn't even afford one if we both truly wanted one! That really sucks!