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You have got to be kidding me!!!! I think my husband has a death wish. (or am I over-reacting)

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Submitted by jeannescott5490 on Wed, 03/17/2010 - 9:08am

I don't even know where to start! Ok, so there is this guy where my husband works that is selling a car for $900. My husband thinks it would be a good car for his son. We have been talking about it for almost a week and I agreed.
Last week, my husband informed me that he bought tickets for port-a-pit chicken that happens this Friday, which is my Birthday.
Last night, my husband asked me to go to the bank and withdraw the money for the car today and he would purchase the car on Thursday.

On the way to work last night I came to the realization that: For MY Birthday, my step-son is getting a $900 car, plus registration and insurance and I am getting port-a-pit chicken, which costs $5.
Now, I realize that I can't see into the future and it's possible that he might have a surprise that I don't know about planned. However, I have been venting for a while about money issues and how it seems like we can afford things for R, but that when it comes to things that I need that money is tight right now.

I want to say something, but then I feel like if I do then it will seem like I am being self-centered and selfish. Am I over-reacting? Any suggestions on what I should do if my fears became reality?

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Submitted by TheWife on Wed, 03/17/2010 - 9:23am

At the risk of sounding ignorant, what is port a pit chicken?

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Submitted by Kb3Hooah on Wed, 03/17/2010 - 9:37am

I always tend to react before I know what's going to happen, I have no patience for one, but also, it's a defense mechanism for me. This way I don't feel disappointed if it turns out he really didn't do anything 'special' for me.

But in the end, when I do react, I still don't feel good about the outcome, because I've either ruined the surprise and feel completely guilty for my behavior, or I'm pissed that I had to react that way to get him to do anything.

So I suggest waiting to see first, no expectations attached....and if it doesn't turn out how you would have liked it to..talk to him about it, and how it makes you feel without getting angry.

I'd be willing to bet that he's not thinking "Well it's jeans Bday but instead of doing anything special for her, I'm going to rub it in her face and do something special for my son instead" And if he *does* think exactly that way...you should probably ask yourself if this is the type of relationship you want to be in.
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Submitted by outofplace on Thu, 03/18/2010 - 12:12am

It's not like an outing or something?... He's just getting you a bbqed chicken for your bday?... yeah, I'd be pissed.. Blum 3

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Submitted by Rags on Thu, 03/18/2010 - 4:31am

If a port-a-chicken has any relationship to a port-a-pot I don't want to know what it is.

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Submitted by TheWife on Thu, 03/18/2010 - 8:46am

I agree. I doubt your husband has thought of this in this manner. I wouldn't worry about the car.

What I'd be pissed about is the chicken!! Oh-no-he-didn't!!

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