Stepmothers Day? No, thank you.
I just found out today that this Sunday (apparently the Sunday after Mother's Day) is Stepmother's Day?? UGH. I'm hoping and praying my FDH and FSD13 don't find out about this. I really don't want the attention. I loathe Mother's Day and avoid it at all costs. Not that I'm against it, per se.. I just have no reason to celebrate it. It's a day that causes pain and sadness for me, so I usually go someplace where I don't have it in my face, like the beach or the mountains, or just for a long car ride with my FDH. You see, in 2010, I lost my maternal grandmother.. in 2011, I lost my paternal grandmother.. and 8 months later, in 2012, my own mother passed as well. I am not a mother myself, and it just is not a day of happiness for me. I have been invited to spend the day with my niece's mother and her sisters with their kids, or girlfriends of mine and either their mothers or their kids, and it just aggravates me.. why would I want to watch you with your children or mothers celebrating, when I can't do the same?? No, thank you.
Last year, FSD approached me and asked if I would mind if she got me a Mother's Day card. I said it wasn't necessary, and to spend the time and effort on her own mother.. she informed me she already made me a card in school. Okay, I'll gladly accept it. P.S.: I never got aforementioned card.
This year, exact scenario with the question, the answer, the "well, I already made you one", the smile pasted on my face agreeing to accept card upon delivery "thank you for thinking of me, that's very sweet", and the ultimate non-delivery of said card.
Now I find out about this? I am not her mother, mother figure (as FDH likes to say **cringe**), or even her stepmother as of yet.
Maybe we can celebrate Babysitters Day instead?
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Mother's Day is a pretty
Mother's Day is a pretty major holiday for me even though I no longer have a mother or grandmother, and I have no children.
My mother had 7 sisters. MD was the primo holiday of the year with a big family reunion. It has continued for over 70 years now. For me it is a time for connecting with 2nd and 3rd cousins that I don't often see - but who I really like.
But as I now have a skid - a worthless POS adult skid - the idea of SM's Day is utterly repulsive.
That's awesome that you all
That's awesome that you all have a family reunion! My mother was an only child, so I don't have the big family thing.. like I said, it's just easier to go do my own thing when that day rolls around... and much easier that FSD spends the day with her own mother, instead of me hearing, "Ummmm, Jerseyyyyyy.. can I ___?" or "Ummmm, Daddddyyyyy?" all day long.
I third that notion!
I third that notion!
Colonoscopy Day! Hahahaha!
Colonoscopy Day! Hahahaha! That's great!
Well I got a chocolate for
Well I got a chocolate for Mothers day from Deigma... only because his GF told him about it...
I'm no one's SM thus I will be safe this week-end
I pray daily my husband
I pray daily my husband doesn't find out about it as a "day" to recognise my efforts. He is very big on these things and I actually prefer it's not pushed down all our throats.
*picking up the phone and
}:) }:) *picking up the phone and dailing H *
Acra: H you know it's SM day this Sunday?
H: No really ?
Acra: yes really I think Chucky should make Mon a nice snot encrusted card
H: What a brilliant idea, I'll get onto it immediately......
I'm happy with the "this is
I'm happy with the "this is yummy secret, thanks for making it!" I get now and then
This is the text I got from
This is the text I got from my children's stepmother on Mother's Day. "Happy mother's day!! Thank you for allowing me to help raise your amazing daughters."
She doesn't have any children of her own and she's good to my children. Heck, she's even good to my wicked step children. She brought SD16 flowers and visited her when she was in the hospital. I know she wasn't raised by her own mother but her grandparents and her mother is alive but I've never heard one word about her. So I drove DD9 up to a flower shop, and we got a dozen roses and I drove her over to her dad's and had her give the flowers to their stepmom. She was on the verge of the tears. We have petty differences here and now but on the whole, we make it work.
That's very sweet! I try to
That's very sweet!
I try to avoid any contact with BM.. she's a twister, likes to take something innocent and turn it to make us look bad and use it to her advantage. I'm sure she'd figure out a way to twist a Happy Mother's Day wish into something nefarious.
Stepmother's Day does not
Stepmother's Day does not seem to be on my calendar. I see May Day, National Day of Prayer, Battle of Puebla Day (Mexico), Mother's Day, Victoria Day (Canada) and a few others but no Stepmother's Day, so....
Last weekend, DH was on the phone with SD and she told him to tell me Happy Mother's Day and she doesn't care what I say, I'm her mother. Um, no, I definitely am not.
DH said, "I wonder what she's up to or what she wants." He's got her number.
Mine came home after spending
Mine came home after spending the day with her mother and whispered to me.. yes, whispered.. "happy mother's day"
Still haven't gotten that homemade card. lol
I thought Step parents day
I thought Step parents day was in September? Either way, nah don't do anything.
I understand your frustration on being invited to others to celebrate but think of it as them thinking of you and not wanting you to be alone. We spent every mothers day with my Aunt because her kids suck and never even acknowledged her. We knew even tho she was with us that she wasnt happy, but she said it was better than being alone. They just wanted to show you love.
Yeah, I know all of that.. I
Yeah, I know all of that.. I just would rather be away from everyone. It's better for what little sanity I have left!
Well, BONUS! No one knew
Well, BONUS! No one knew about it and went on with their lives and I went on with mine. It was actually a very nice day! Love the comments, you guys are hysterical!