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Submitted by jjohnson on Tue, 03/13/2007 - 7:15pm

My Husband and I have been married for 2 years we have a 1 year old daughter and a 3 year old son together. I have a 9 year old son who also lives with us part time from a previous relationship. Recently my husband's ex was arrested for the use of methamphetamine and lost custody of my step son. We are more than happy to have him with us because his previous living conditions were miserable to say the least. Needless to say he comes to us with a lot of issues. We have had regular visitation with him since we first became involved, so my ss and I are close. The biggest issue we are having right now is that my bio son and my step son DO NOT get along at all. I realize that there will be some normal competition etc. between them but they are arguing ALL the time and I have no idea what to do. any advice is appreciated!

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Submitted by Daddysgirl on Tue, 03/13/2007 - 7:48pm

All siblings fight bio or step. My youngest Biodaughter and my SS are the same age... 3 weeks apart... oh the rivalry, the compition... the fights... I think it is pretty normal. They will grow out of it (then back into it again) just like all siblings do! Hang in there!

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Submitted by Anne 8102 on Tue, 03/13/2007 - 8:06pm

My bios fight with one another and my skids fight with one another, but my bios and my skids don't fight each other at all. I think my bios and my skids don't tussle with each other because they really don't get to see each other that often, so they don't get on each other's nerves as much. You're probably already doing what you can to minimize this. One thing I like to do is remind them that while they may be pains on one another's butts right now, some day they will become one another's best friend.

~ Anne ~

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