Well DH went to court this morning and she found out that he owes her nothing. Her lawyer and the mediators enlightened her that she had owed him for years and when the oldest child turns 18 she will owe DH a lot of money in CS if he were to go for it. Rather than do that she agreed to accept nothing. Some minor changes to the CO. They agreed to get rid of the original custody of 2weeks on and 2 off and put it at the one week on one week off the way they have been doing it. The Right of Refusal is taken out. She never followed the two hour rule anyway. The clause about the Stepsisters of SD not being allowed to interact, was now removed. She had broken that several times as well.

I did not go, but the new Step Dad did. Since this was probably his idea from the begininng since he pays two ex-wives.

Three hours later and several digs into BM about non-compliance on many things. She caved and went with what our lawyers and DH said 9 months ago. That she wasn't entitled to anything. DH is so happy and so am I. SD14 is living with BM and she gets nothing else.

At one point DH's lawyer said to the mediator, "really she already has the kid, what more do you want from the guy". Our lawyer was great. They think BM had already spent so much on her attorney's that when she realized she would have to pay DH's at least $500 a month when SD turned 18 in 3 years and that my DH would pursue because she did this to him, she agreed to forego pursuing CS with the judge. If she insisted on over $100 a month from DH he was prepared to go to the judge and then pursue everything he could including full custody of SS12. Last thing her lawyer said was fine on everything as long as both parties pay for their own attorneys. Last time, she had to pay part of DH's since she pursued that modification.

Anyway, I am gloating and so is DH. But, at the same time, he still has zero relationship outside of one dinner with SD. He keeps saying I don't want him to have a relationship with her, which is not true. I just don't want that child to benefit from our life at all and I do not want his relationship to inconvenience ours. When they did meet for dinner, SD only wanted to meet on Saturday night. The one night that we had no kids. Which, was unlike her since she goes out on Saturdays with her friends. This child left and has lied and manipulated everyone including BM. Seems like BM got a little bit of the Karma she deserved. I just wish SD would get a little too. You can't hurt people like this and not get something. For BM it was in the pocketbook, but I will take it where I can get it....