Dh and SD14 have been fighting for as long as I can remember i recently disengaged and I am not very good at it. I'm really trying. Well Dh has been taking the sd14 outside when things escalate. u can hear the screaming all the way in the house. its really frustrating. but better out there. its not in me and the boy's faces. well he is supposed to keep up with her agenda. i remind him everyday. well guess what i told her go to the table to do her home she sits there and stares at me at the table wads up the paper. it was something that took two mins if she did it right. i have no idea. it was a long drawn out process. so SHE SAYS "GIVE UP ON ME STOP CARING THEY ARE NOT GOING TO FAIL ME ANYWAY THEY HAVE TO PASS ME ON TO 9TH GRADE!" Everytime we turn around she is saying shit like that. she doesn't have to study she is smart! she refuses to do work! if i went to foster care they would give me a cell phone. okay good then just leave and go to foster care. get your damn phone. if you think thats how it really works. you get your grades passing you get a phone i will not pay for a stupid ass phone if you can't even do your school work. 20% 32% 37% 50% 54% those are her grades! i asked her to play with her 2 year old brother when i was helping the 5 year old with his homework and she was awful would not do it. her meme. dh's mom. said man she is a bitch to you. Dh told her this morning. YOU WILL NOT TREAT ME, MY WIFE LIKE THIS ANYMORE. OR I WILL FIND SOMEWHERE ELSE FOR YOU TO GO. I told sd your hair looks nice today. i asked her if she needed to talk becuase she was being hateful. i can be nice. i will be nice. but don't talk to me like i am dirt you can walk all over. my mind is in 50 different places. maybe i should just tell dh lets go on dr.phil so i can get her the heck out of my home. she's 14 in 8th grade we haven't even hit high school yet...and thats when its supposed to get really bad. well things are already really bad.