the many fights of sd16 this weekend:

SD: Bm sister told me you cheated on mom (me) with her. and that when you were 18 you and someone were going to have a baby and lost it. and how could you cheat on mom(me)
DH: If I had slept with you bm sister at that point in time don't you think I would have Hepatitis too. Use your common sense
SD: (crying) why don't you tell me the truth!
ME: DH I am so proud of you for coming as far as you have and leaving all those losers who do nothing but cause problems in your past. That makes you a bigger man than anyone I know. I LOVE YOU. and sd if you want to continue this nonsense you will have to do it when im not around cause we are not going to fight about the past.
SD: BUT HE DID.
Me: That's enough. (turning up volume on tv ridiculously loud)

NEXT:

DH:When you bm gives proof that she called and exterminator for her house you can go live with her.
SD: What you know she wont do that daddy. I want my MOMMY! I want her now! You know she won't do that!
DH: If you know that why do you want someone who won't do a damn thing for you.
SD: SHE WILL SHES CHANGED SHES NOT EVEN TAKING PILLS ANYMORE.

NEXT FIGHT

SD: My mommy is great. My mommy is coming to get me. My mommy loves me. My mommy is getting a lawyer.
me: Fine when your fantastic mommy serves us with papers...by all means go live with her
SD: What! Dad told me I could go! I want to go with my MOmmy! I won't stop running until I get her! You know mom wont do that why are you going back on your word! I want my mom! I'm leaving now!

that woke up my 7 year old who never says his feelings....

BS7: Sissy please don't leave and please don't run away you are loved here. I know mom isn't your real mom. but she cares and so do I sissy. please don't leave me. I love you too sissy. That's something you real mom can't give you. is love from us. and being safe. and no bugs live here sissy.
SD: Really? wow? whatever.

DH has been taking her to work with him so she can't run away because she has been in online school. yesterday his boss sent him home because that's a liability. So DH is off today and I hope by the time I get home. Shes gone. I want the best but I can only try so hard. If she wants to live with a nasty ass bitch than fine! my house is small but clean. the kids are loved and have what they need. If DH gets fired hes out too because Ive worked my but off to get where I am he is just now holding down a job.