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jstorie's picture

:jawdrop: after all my post I am here to bash BM. Im angry. My life has been hell because my sd16 has wanted her forever. The older she got the worse it got. My post this past week have all been ranting about my sd16 running away and being a b* to my family, my boys. all because she wanted bm. Yesterday, to hell with it go! Here is what happened.

Backstory:

2 Fridays ago my SD16 goes missing from her aunts house. Cops were called. She was to have no contact with BM. well she did BM drove an hour to go get her. While they were hiding out from the cops they had all the ideas on how they were going to live happily ever after. Sd was going to finish school with straight A's. She was going to be able to date. BM was going to buy her a car. Then the next Wednesday BM made SD call Dh and tell her where she was. cops were called. They got her. Brought her back to us.

SD fought with us the whole entire time. BM is the best. shes gonna get a lawyer...BLAH BLAH BLAH.

DH finally got temp guardianship papers brought up yesterday. He tried to get ahold of BM all day. (he took off work) Shit really hit the fan when I got home from work because SD was rude again to my 7 yr old. I blew up told her never to call me mom again. that I have a name. and told her have a great life at bm.

So dh went bm house knocked on the door. no one would answer
sd said let me try. she stood outside and yelled for her mommy to open the door.
Bm called dh "get off my property now. I don't want her" a lot of other stuff was said and dh said you tell sd then
Bm did told her she didn't want her that she needed to go live with us. all sorts of stuff. was a real bitch!
SD came to me crying asking me for a hug when I got home from bs7 football practice I said no. why are you still here.
sd said "you were right. what did I do so wrong that again she doesn't want me. what have I done I have nowhere to go. I treated everyone like shit because I only wanted bm and now I have nothing. "
I said im sorry she is crazy. im sorry she lied. it doesn't feel good. and im sorry. I left it at that for about 3 hours.
she came out later when dh and I were talking. and said please im changing now and im sorry for what ive done.
Dh didn't say a word so I did: "Look sd I don't know what the plan is right now. we don't have one. but all I know is you have done all our family wrong and you need to change. don't worry about us right now. worry about yourself and who you will become if you keep on this way."

so why would the bitch drive over 100 miles to get someone she has no intent on keeping?!!!! I don't get it! Sd 16 was doing fine in the city with her aunt. doing online school making a's! had a little part time job! she was doing really well. then sd 16 called her and it was over! Why would a mom fill their own kids head full of bullshit and take it away. you could tell her heart was broke!!!!

Dh and I talked about sending her to job core. but I don't think she can maintain there either. dh wants his marriage. and I get that but what now! do I try this one more time? will this be the straw for sd to see bm for what she is? I can't get over driving 100 miles then saying eh I don't want you. unless it was just to prove sd will always want her! its bullshit. she has really messed with this kids mind. I want to go (but never would) to this womens house and kick her ass! ugh! Sad :jawdrop:

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kcbonline's picture

She did it just to purposely have her make more problems for you she probably thinks it's funny to mess with her head then send her back to you guys to handle it

Acratopotes's picture

jstorie - what you are going through I went through 4 years ago... BM did the same with Aergia and when Aergia came back, i moved out and I disengaged from her, I want nothing to do with her.... in the past 4 years, BM do this annually...... tells Aergia how wonderful she is blablabla, Aergia jumps and I'm the evil person....
I do not care anymore, I remain disengage,

I suggest you stay disengaged now, regardless of what SD do and say, she still lost the privileged to call you mum, she calls you Mrs Jstorie, not even just jstorie... you remain friendly but you do nothing with her or for her...
it's now all up to DH and if she disrespects you DH needs to tell her off...if he does not, you tell her - listen here b!tch I'm done with you, stay out of my way, make sure you graduate and leave in 2 years time... I do not mingle with low class people....

Believe me when I say SD will try everything now so that you can forget, but it will happen again, I never stopped reminding Aergia - I'm not your mother...... I make sure she knows how I feel about her, SO talked to me last night and said Aergia cried the previous night cause she realized that she alienated me for BM who does not want her anymore and she's sorry - I laughed and said - oh really if she's so sorry why not talk to me, I know why not - cause you fall for the fake tears and I call her out on her bullsh!t, if she's sorry why did she leave the kitchen in a mess, when I told her please clear the plates she replied with if it bothers you do it self - she's not sorry she's only manipulating you - wake up.... Aergia was listening from around the corner, SO heard her running up stairs and slamming the door ... I laughed and said = point proven, now we got along for a while and the house was tidy and clean when she was with BM with 2 weeks, now it looks like this again, call me when you decided to tell her to clean and keep the house clean, I have my own clean house I do not need to sit in filth.....