Update since the Friday from HELL
So as I'm sure most of you are aware of the total crap storm that brewed Easter weekend, all that drama and SD14 decided to not come. There were many MANY talks that happened the entire weekend ( all calm thank god) but I did come down on him HARD on passive aggressive MIL. He apologized and has since had a talk with his mother about her unwanted advice and her comments about his wife (me) . We have had a few counseling session which are going great, DH didn't object at all. Things have been peaceful in the house besides the chaos of having 4 kids lol. I have not seen much of MIL but SIL has come around more for the kiddos, I was shock SIL stayed out of the drama . I did tell DH that if he EVER threatened me with divorce again he better follow through with it and have his bags packed because I do not lay with that word. The following weekend after Easter he drove to Dallas with DS 7 and BS12 to see SD14 play , he had a serious talk with her while he was there about her visitation. He said that she needs to come and if she doesn't come then she can not come outside of her weekend to come . Supposedly DH said that SD has been wanting to come. Over all things have been going good! I ever went out and got me a sweet new ride and I received a bonus at work today !!! So that brings me to say that SD is coming this weekend and I'm don't know how to feel about it, she hasn't been since last year . I'm just gonna mind to myself but already BM is making it difficult for DH ( shocker!) also Sunday is DH birthday , I am just hoping for a calm non drama weekend .
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Hoping for a peaceful weekend for you
Civil and polite, that's my mantra.
I hope your baby is better.
Thank you , I am hoping for
Thank you , I am hoping for the same. She is completely better thank god!
Sounds like he put some good
Sounds like he put some good boundaries in with her. SD seems so hard to deal with. I hope things all go smoothly for you on the weekend. I think it's good he told her she needs to come and if she doesn't then she doesn't come other times. That way she can't cause drama by dictating the rest of everything you have going on
Oh and get this! BM is having
Oh and get this! BM is having a hard time with her, color me shocked!!!!!!! I called this and SO many others in this group. I guess this is what happens when you do not have structure, boundaries, spoil, make excuses for bad behavior... I mean I could go on but this is what happens after 14 years no parenting and trying to be the cool mom. lol . It's a miracle that now all the sudden BM can see at night and is very eager to drop off SD now lmao!!!
Be careful
When our BM couldn't handle SD62 anymore, that's when she got moved to our house. Be watchful.
Oh dear lord !!! Don't scare
Oh dear lord !!! Don't scare me lol. She says this in the same sentence as "she has her private volleyball lesson early Sunday" lol like oh okay , she misbehaves and still gets special paid for lessons?!? Hahahaha. I think DH knows better then to let that drama cross over here . He got a goooood ringing .
Doesnt she try to
Doesnt she try to pawn off SD on a whim often times? Its very likely she gets sick of the horrible behavior. And she actually adds to the behavior by not parenting her and allowing her to get away with such nonsense all the time
I never got that about my step kids bio mom either. She didn't shut down really bad behaviors and she allowed her kids to just do whatever with no rules. Then she essentially had to live full time with feral children. They don't see the correlation there...
Dup
Dup
Beware!
Of the 180 or spineless guilty daddy back slide!
True. It would be very
True. It would be very important to stick to those rules and boundaries to show he means business and didn't just say all of those things. I think it's hard for them because they worry about the kid not wanting to come back. But it's so crucial at this point to maintain all of those things that were said.
It’s your CO visitation
Your visitation is more important then volleyball lesson , BM should of made arrangements so DD Visitation does not interfere with her volleyball lesson .
'TWO. You must be respected by SD. there must be a " Hello" . 'Good night"...." good morning "...and "Goodby"...just maybe a "thank you"... How much you want to be involved it's up to you. I would have little hope after a year. So be nice, be helpful. Let SD screw up. [or not]. In the end you still have to live with your DH abd your family . Of course you will exchange those pleasantries with the whole family.