Quick recap: Less than a week ago, SD left BM's house to go back to her apt in the town where she dropped out of college. And she left the house literally covered in shit. Boys and BM - or, more likely, just the boys - have been deep-cleaning the place ever since, and BM was so pissed that she wanted us to take in SD when she moves back to the city. DSO told her not just no, but HELL no, and mentioned that SD had burned a bridge with me [http://www.steptalk.org/node/219173], and that she would not be using my resources until such time as she made amends.

I was kind of irritated that he told BM any of that, because any information is raw material for her to spin into lies. So neither of us know how the conversation she had with SD about it went.

At any rate, SD called DSO yesterday to cry about how mean I was, and how unfair he was being, and blah blah blah. She even had the nerve to complain that I wasn't going to loan out my truck and trailer to help move her back this time. And... he let her get away with NONE of it. He took the opportunity to tell her exactly what he thought of her behavior - to me, and in general, and how disappointed and upset he was with her for squandering a chance to go to a top university for free, and without having to work. Just laid it out in detail, and called her on her bullshit excuses when she protested. He told her that if she wanted to be treated like an adult, then when she fucked up a relationship with another adult [me], she could fix it herself with that adult, not go crying to him and expect him to fix it for her. They went back and forth a lot, and we think the girl's inherited her mother's BPD, so it all probably accomplished very little, but it was extremely cathartic for him. He told her that she had betrayed his trust too many times for him to take her word for anything; that he still loved her, but he wouldn't support her financially anymore, he wouldn't fix her problems - especially when they're of her own creation. She kept saying stuff like, "You're *punishing* me for this?" And he said, "No, you're an adult. These aren't punishments. These are *consequences*. And you need to learn that the world will give you consequences when you screw up."

I'm damned proud of him.