Dear Valued Users,
It's with a heavy heart that we announce the permanent closure of StepTalk.org on August 31st, 2025.
This decision wasn't an easy one. For over twenty years, StepTalk has been a source of support for stepparents around the world! However, over the years, the costs associated with maintaining and upgrading the site to remain secure, meet current standards and maintain availability have become unsustainable.
We are incredibly grateful for your support, contributions and the community you've helped us build. Your engagement has made StepTalk.org a special place and we cherish the memories and connections made here.
We would especially like to thank Aniki for volunteering to be a moderator and for caring so much.
Thank you for being a part of our journey and we wish you all the best.
Sincerely,
Dawn and The StepTalk Team
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And once they're open and
And once they're open and have seen what they've seen, you can't un see it. Damn it.
Nope you sure can't un-see
Nope you sure can't un-see it, but you can use this new found information to your advantage. Can't fix the problem if you don't know what the root of it is, now you do, you have a shot at fixing it. Good Luck.
That's a good point. I'm just
That's a good point. I'm just being cynical today.
I came to this realization,
I came to this realization, its why I disengaged, I realized that DH chooses not to see any problem with his kids behaviour so of course there is nothing to correct. I was very very disappointed at first. Since we do not share any children together, it did seal it that I would not be sharing any with him. I did cut him out of parenting (if that is what you want to call it) my bios in any way so that he doesn't break my kids the way the skids are broken.
DH complains about the shitty parent BM is yet he is pretty much right there enabling along side of her. The small improvements in the upbringing of the skids is solely my doing, I see this more and more clearly as time passes, my changes are indirect as I have 2 bios here and things like diet which was a huge complaint of his where the skids are concerned is controlled not by him, but by me. If I wasn't here, the diet would be no different for the skids here than it is with BM - so I came to realize DH really is about equal to BM where parenting is concerned.
I no longer step in. If BM and DH want to raise broken children with no rules, then its fine. I see clearly now a child with DH would have been a huge mistake and could have broken our marriage. Since we share no children, DH is a wonderful husband and I am able to ignore his parenting as it has no real effects on me that disengaging hasn't resolved for the most part.
If his parenting changes to effect my husband-wife relationship - then I will have to go from there.
I do not respect DH as a parent, but I put that to the side and leave it alone now.