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OT (a little)...Reasonable Visitation

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Submitted by Kenna on Thu, 05/31/2012 - 7:37am

I have no CO for visitation for my three oldest sons (17, 14, 13). My xH and I have always just handled everything, and it has worked out beautifully, going on 5 years now. We are kind and fair to each other, and the boys benefit.

I said that, to say this...I have NO experience in coming up with 'reasonable visitation'.

Hahahaha you MUST be kidding...

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Submitted by Kenna on Tue, 05/22/2012 - 11:02pm

Poor SO is texting BM and I am giggling!

She sent a text saying she wanted to discuss how much more child support she was going to receive during the summer! LOL We have him full-time and pay her child support for the 40% of the time she is supposed to have him (including the summer). This isn't a new court order this is the one that has been in place for two years, she knows she doesn't get more money for the summer months. As usual I am annoyed but slightly entertained by her antics!

It is a whole basket of crazy!!

Finally!

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Submitted by Kenna on Mon, 05/21/2012 - 7:12pm

Friday SS16 will be gone for the summer!! Let the cartwheels begin! I am trying not to get too excited lol

BM (via SS) said that she won't be taking him until June 17th...the court order states she has to take him "the summer months" She is trying to cut off half of June and then SS16 will have to be back mid August for football. So she would be getting out of an entire month total. We have him all the time except EOW and we pay HER child support.

I am the BM!

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Submitted by Kenna on Wed, 05/09/2012 - 9:17pm

One of my 4 sons (BS14) lives with my xH. The X has been dating a woman for several months now and my son spends a lot of time at her house, even has a bedroom there. This woman is great! She is sweet and kind, not just to my son but to everyone.

After everything I have been through with Skids and BM, I am being extra careful to make sure that I am not a horrible BM lol I have even had discussions with her about letting me know if BS14 gives her any problems (they are still in the 'honeymoon' stage so there haven't been any yet!)

Preparing for a BM storm...

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Submitted by Kenna on Wed, 05/09/2012 - 9:10pm

Last night SO and I announced to our kids and then the rest of our families that we are expecting a baby in October. The minute SD19 left our house she called her mom (she is on our cell plan and I snooped to see if she would call her lol). BM is crazy, not just crazy but REALLY crazy lol faked a pregnancy when she hadn't had a uterus in 15 years kind of crazy...so I know there will be some sort of crazy production as a result of her finding out that we are having a baby.

Not all BM's fault

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Submitted by Kenna on Sat, 05/05/2012 - 4:27pm

Initially I thought all of the Skids' bad behavior was to blame on BM being a shitty parent (becasue she is), and in my eyes SO was perfect (other than being a lazy parent)...but the longer SO and I are together the more I realize that a lot of their bad behavior comes directly from him. Ugh, wish I hadn't opened my eyes lol

Failing!

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Submitted by Kenna on Thu, 05/03/2012 - 7:46am

My goal is to disengage...but it is so hard to let SO 'handle' disciplinig his kid!

SS16 left his bedroom a disaster, a carpet/wall damaging kind of disaster after his dad asked him to clean it. There were 5 things wrong in his room that he had already been in trouble for in the past months (some of those things this was the 3rd time he had done them) ok so not only did he choose NOT to listen to his dad and clean his room, he repeated 5 bad behaviors that were of the carpet/wall damaging type (I wish I were kidding)

Do I mention it?

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Submitted by Kenna on Wed, 05/02/2012 - 12:17pm

My SO and I had another huge fight Sunday night because he thinks I hate his kids. Essentially it was me picking on his son16 because I asked SO why he had not corrected two back to back incidents of VERY bad manners. We have these fights about once a month, he tells me I have to move out blah blah blah because he wants to be a lazy parent and never have to discipline his kid. Anyway, we worked through it, the end result was the same as always...I decide to leave parenting to him, and he agrees to pay more attention and put more effort into parenting.

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