Okay, so this isn't huge, and it's my Ex not BM. But damn I've been happy since this happened.

So my Ex has always maintained that I 'took' BS away from him. He conveniently doesn't tell people the part about DCF being involved and how he point-blank refused to do ANYTHING to keep his custody. He wouldn't even take the silly $25 co-parenting class we were both CO'd to take. Nevermind the stuff that actually mattered. When he wouldn't cooperate he was CO'd supervised visits 2x a week with a mututal friend, so he wasn't paying for these visits. He skipped every single one for 4 months, but his Cs was still non-existent because before this mess we were 50/50. DCF helped me get sole custody at that point and establish CS.

Fast forward I had to file contempt recently over the CS and medical because he just, stopped paying his CS. It's wage garnished and I know he's working so I'm not sure why it's not being paid anymore. We go to court, do the whole song and dance, so far nothing has changed but CSE is slow, at least it's on file that I've been pro-active about it. He isn't paying it because he has two other kids now and it's too much for him to pay CS and take care of them.

FDH is friends with a few of the same people who are friends with my Ex, they went to the same school and FDH was in class with my ExSIL. so one of these mutual friends was complaining about someone else, but the post was a rant about people who aren't in one kids life and dodge responsibility both financially AND personally. there were a bunch of comments, but FDH busted out laughing at the end. A second mutual friend posted "Did anyone tag 'Ex' in this??" and the OP said no but she should have.

I know it doesn't look big, but these are people who WERE my friends, who haven't spoken to me in YEARS because I was a 'vile bitch' for 'taking' BS away. I wasn't hanging my dirty laundry out about what he did so I just cut my losses and went, if they wanted to take the Exes word for what happened then they weren't worth it anyway. It's taken YEARS but some of them have FINALLY started to see that he's the one doing weird things. The comment might not even be in reference to BS but the baby he and his GF just had that they can't afford, they can barely handle her kid, and their first bio-kid. His parents pay for their car and car insurance. I doubt many of them know he isn't paying his CS also but man does it feel good to know that others are catching on.