i have been with my boyfriend for 4 years, his son was only 4 months old when we started dating. since the start his BM has been causing trouble, mostly with me. She got a boyfriend about a year ago and the bull stopped for a while he has now left her she has a 4 month old with this other man. The problems havent started back up with me but everything seems to be on my step son. She has always pushed him off on everyone else since he was little and even worse now. my step son is delayed in speech and only started talking about 7 months ago, he has a speech therapist and in school has speech classes which have helped out a lot. we work very closely with him to drag words out of him when he is with myself and my boyfriend every weekend. the problem i have isnt toward me but more what she is doing to her son, both the speech therapist and doctor have said she needs to ditch the binky (which he hasnt used with us since he was 2 years old, didnt even suck his thumb wen we took it away) she refuses to stop giving it to him b.c it shuts him up. also my aunt works at his school and said she sees a huge difference between him being with us on the weekend and while hes at school, he's hitting kids and teachers and when it was brought up to the mother by the bus driver she walked away like she never heard anything. She also refuses to potty train him, my step son is 4 1/2 years old he pees in the toilet standing like a big boy but she has taught him when he has to poop to get a diaper and do it there instead of in the toilet. My boyfriend is afraid to stand up to her about this because he doesnt want her to pull the bs she did b4 trying to call DSS on him even tho he has never done anything wrong... so difficult because i love this kid just like he was my own, but i feel like there's nothing i can do!