I had surgery yesterday. This puts me off my feet longer than I was initially led to believe. Originally the PA said "oh you'll be right back to normal activity" but that didn't seem right since they were going to be cutting into my leg. Sure enough day of comes around doc tells be 2-3 weeks before he wants me doing much of anything. I had made some arrangements for SO's kids my parents stepped in with them so that SO could focus on me during and right after surgery, tomorrow they are helping as my son has his last game and SO is really going to have to help me out.
Point is everyone has been great, SO's kids are either being better than normal or since I'm mostly stuck in bed it's like auto disengagement lol. My normally lazyish ds has been extremely obedient bordering on subservient, no-argumentative and super helpful to me which has also freed up SO more than we'd thought so he can pay attention to his kids. Because my ds has been so awesome SO played with him for an hour which was weird since what they were playing my ds hasn't played with in a long while but tonight he did and they had a blast. So I watched a movie with SO's kids in turn. My dd has had to work but got up an hour early to take me to get some things I needed before she went to work since I also can't drive.
It's been nice watching and listening to the whole house work together and get along to take care of me. Maybe I should play sick once in awhile. The bad part is I'm seriously in pain, and discomfort. I'm not sure how I'm getting to classes next week since I can't drive, and even though I knew I'd be on crutches for court with my exh I'm so miserable I really don't want to go and even more mad since I found out he's emotionally blackmailing the kids. He filed for cs mod, due to making less (his choice) just lost that job but got another making what he was when cs was originally set which would make the modification pointless.
However he told the kids that I am not to be told or know about the new job because he'll lose it if his new employer has to deal with CSE. I found out because I have parental controls on my ds's cell and the convo was right there so I checked dd's cell similar texts how if ANYONE finds out about this new job it'll all be screwed he'll be homeless and the poor guy he works for really needs his help so they'd be hurting him too by telling anyone about it. (meaning don't tell your mom) I feel bad for my kids, but I have enough for court even without that info from my kids to prove he has ability to pay, regardless a judge will decide based hopefully on whats best for the kids.