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Submitted by laura0110 on Mon, 03/12/2012 - 4:12pm

So BM is pregnant with her 5th child and is due end of July or beginning of August, dont know because she isnt telling anyone anything. She has enough nerve to tell us that when she has the baby since its summer time that we will have the girls (my skids) for 5 weeks! I am pregnant, only 11 weeks, but by then will be about 7-8 months pregnant! I am not about to take care of skids full time because you decided to have another kid! My husband doesnt know what to do. He is like stuck because he wants to spend time with his daughters, but doesnt want it to be my responsibility to be taking care of his kids and our 3 year old son when Im pregnant. I am not saying I couldnt do it, but its not my responsibility to do so. I work mon-fri 830-530, and by the time i get home im exhausted and im only 11 weeks pregnant. i remember being pregnant with my son at 7-8 months, and i was miserable. and im sure when i have this baby, she is not going to be keeping her kids at her house so we dont have them. Not only was this just brought up, but she has also asked for us to start taking them every weekend, and 2 days a week when she works nights so they dont have to stay there with there step dad. We have been doing this for a month now, and we just found out that she doesnt always go to work like she says she is. And this week is spring break for the skids, and she conveniently has to work all week??

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VioletsareBlue's picture

Submitted by VioletsareBlue on Mon, 03/12/2012 - 4:36pm

Not your Kids, Not Your Problem
Does your DH pay child support? I'd tell her nothing is changing until the CO is legally changed (including CS)

Ommy's picture

Submitted by Ommy on Mon, 03/12/2012 - 4:36pm

Go by court order until something is written in stone and CS is adjusted because of the changes. You will only get screwed if you dont.

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Submitted by VioletsareBlue on Mon, 03/12/2012 - 4:51pm

"but she has also asked for us to start taking them every weekend, and 2 days a week when she works nights so they dont have to stay there with there step dad..."

So step dad can't be inconvienenced but step mom can? Screw that!

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Submitted by liks on Mon, 03/12/2012 - 5:18pm

^^^^^ I agree with this ^^^^^^

However, is she not trusting step dad with the skids????

Get her to state in writting why she cant leave the skids with him....but can with you

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Submitted by sonja on Mon, 03/12/2012 - 5:03pm

Yeah this is a joke.. We dont take SD just because BM doesnt want her BF to have to watch her or whatever. She can pay whoever she needs to watch SD when she is unable to. Every weekend is a major joke and trap and I wouldnt fall into that one!

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Submitted by 3littlemonkeys on Mon, 03/12/2012 - 5:05pm

OMG, I find this ironic...

First, I agree that you are not the babysitter.

But how many posters on here have their SO's refuse to get the skids cause SHE'S preggers??
The dads just bail on the time with their kids because his lady is with child.

Anyway, IF your DH is going to be around, it could be fun.
Otherwise, tell BM she can use it as "bonding time" with all of her kids. Smile

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Submitted by purpledaisies on Mon, 03/12/2012 - 5:08pm

I get that he is their dad but if he has to work and the 'babysitting' falls on SM then dad wold just have to get a baby sitter and then bm can get a baby sitter just like dad would have to do. Makes NO sense??? So in other words the kids would be a sitter NO matter what right? So My vote is to go with the CO period!