Dh had given ss a good telling off the other weekend, detailed in my last post. Ss was fine, came to a peaceful conclusion, so we thought. 

Dh had an email from the assistant headteacher at ss school (dh grew up with this woman so dbl cringe) email says that ss has been tearful in class a few times last week, we want to invite you in to talk to ss re his feelings, in front of an impartial 3rd party. A time to talk session.at the earliest opportunity, is tomorrow good. I immediately felt sick, so we are now unable to discipline ss it seems without him bottling it up getting upset and school being involved?! Dh feels exactly the same.

Dh immediately answered that no tm and this week is not good. I work an hr away and am not allowed time off unless medical emergency due to covid. Please ring me. He explained his side of the story and that he has been working on ss communication with him so this is a big step back. He raised the concern that if punishing bad behaviour requires intervention from third party due to ss anxiety this is not good, and ss anxiety not normal. Therefore can teacher order a cahms assessment please. Also we are now going to go ahead with mediation over all the issues, ss will be able to have his say too, with a genuinely impartial 3rd party.

I don't know what to say or think at this point, I hate anything like this where officialdom is involved, I start wondering how far it'll go on worry on it impacting on our daughter too.  Unless or until its resolved I want away from ss both weeknights and the weekend day, so I don't have to be dragged into it or blamed for anything. I don't trust him, anxiety or not I can't live like this