Feel really irritated already and he's only been here a few hours! Perhaps I'm getting worse the less we see him as he keeps skipping visits I'm less used to it?

He's huge at 14, bigger than dh in every way. But mentally he comes down to dd8 level or lower.

I am cooking a Sunday dinner and they are all upstairs. Everything's fine until I ask dh to pop yo the shop. As soon as he's out the door loads of crashing laughing then shouting. Dd comes to tell me that ss called her a swear word. I said what did you do to him? Nevermind.

Do all dh do this ? Moan and seek advice then do nothing about it!

This is a text I sent to my friend ....

Dh ringing me when I'm in the shop, got 2 tins of paint in 1 hand basket in other n dd being a handful too. Only answered because it could be about his mum's illness!

I'm very grateful for the replies yesterday, kept me sane.

I went to attend the meeting yesterday, my plan was that dh attend with me as a witness. Sat in carpark and the dance lead is ringing me that she's seen I'm here and is ready. I said oh dh not here yet?

Well he can stay with dd. That curveballed me I didn't want to appear antagonistic so just followed.  Taken to a meeting room in a different building, was introduced to a woman I've never met , a safeguarding lead from head office! Sorry what? Its because the event took place in front of children.

So to set the scene, I'm not trying to stereotype, but I don't fit the dance mum clique, and nor does my lass but bless her she doesn't realise this, yet)

In we go to tiny packed dance waiting room..

Dance teacher: hi dd how was your easter?

Dd: (jumping up and down ) pammy pammy !!! We went to Switzerland!!! And, and ... my brother threw up on the train!!

Teacher (recoil) oh dear

Me: altitude sickness

Teacher: oh OK, how high were you

Dd confidently says 11ft! (ffs)