Vent and a question...
First, my question-- how do you alter child support when the person gets a job as a server or bar tender or any other tip based type of wage? BM went from unemployed (we get the bare min. CS) to working in a restaurant and I am curious how it will work when we alter the CS.
NOW..my real reason to type and vent..
I just got this disgusted look from my husband when he asked me if SD ate all her lunch at summer camp. Um, how the hell would I know? Why in the world would it occur to ME to even ask her about that? I mean, I am NOT trying to be a huge bitch here but in our house, my husband takes care of SD and we take care of our child, I am almost 8 months pregnant, and we both work full time. He has always been responsible for SD and I have made sure of this from day one. No offense, but I didn't sign up to take care of someone's kid that was not my own. If I had wanted to be doing the hard work for an 8 year old, I would have had one of my own.
Husband has been working over time so I have been picking up SD and doing a lot more for her lately..which is fine..I guess...because he is working the O/T. I am still working 8plus hour days, forty hour weeks, on my feet and super pregnant though, so I get to leave that and then go deal with SD and the baby that husband and I have.
Here is a dilemma-- DH wants to apply for a new job. It will pay almost double what he makes now, will have great benefits and will have lots of room for advancement. The problem is that it will most likely be odd hours, and the place is an hour away from where we live. So, obviously that means I will be stuck at home with his kid (that he fought so hard to have full custody of) along with our two young babies. What will I do? How will it be worth it to me? Yeah, I will be able to work less, but only to be taking care of SD full time along with my own (which is different, they are MINE and I WANT to be doing that.) Maybe I am a huge bitch but I don't want to sacrifice time away from my husband and long days with his child for slightly more money and working less on my end. The ONLY way it would be worth it would be if I could go to school. I have never wanted to be a stay at home mom, MOST ESPECIALLY if it involved taking care of random child. Yeah, she is my SD, yeah, she loves me, blah blah blah but it is still not what I want to be doing with my LIFE.
Sorry for the poor writing, I am in pure vent mode.
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^^^^ what ditz said.
^^^^ what ditz said.
Regarding the CS question, I
Regarding the CS question, I am a server and bartender and I have to claim my tips. Not 100% of them but at least 10% of my daily sales, and credit card tips are automatically claimed on my paychecks. It is up to me how much of my cash tips i claim but if i dont claim at least the ten percent, my employer will get fined and it will come back on me. So the BM will have at least some of her tips plus her hourly wages showing on her pay stubs.
Hope this helps.
i'm an employer of tipped
i'm an employer of tipped employees. one employee has an order of child support. i received the order and no where on there was instructions on how to claim tips. so i called them, twice. both times i was told to not include tips in the calculations. i documented this should it come back on me. so, this employee is paying child support on $4.50/hr wages. doesn't even cover the order. and, she's been back to court since this has been in effect. maybe it's because she's a woman, but i burn up everytime i send child support checks in for $18 - $30 a week. ridiculous.
It probably is because she is
It probably is because she is a woman. At the last court date the judge tried multiple times to get my husband to just wait until she was employed to start collecting from her..trying to make us feel sorry for her or something. Of course, if she were the man the judge would have instantly slapped the 65$ unemployed CS monthly fee right on him. I am sure that she will get away with paying us crap because of the tips that wont be claimed or counted. I would think that they would make you pay on min. wage at least..