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I hate it when DH talks down to me -same as BM!

livinthedream's picture

In a conversation today with DH...he started talking down to me ..very similiar to how he talks down to BM. I put up a stink about it & he told me that he totally meant what he said. Basically, he told me that he is angry with me for cutting our grocery budget. I may have cut our food budget (just like everyone is doing in this recession) but I have been cooking my butt off. It is very disrepectful of him. I didnt mention that his budget has increased..he's going into credit debt to pay for beer, trips to see SD at college & various other extras we cant afford. Forget the cooking..ha!
FYI-we have seperate checking
Burned once but never twice!!!

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stepmom2one's picture

we cut the grocery bill to. a lot of us have to, if you have seperate acts I would tell hiim to do his own shopping then!

Colorado Girl's picture

My husband uses the same immitation "voice" for BM and myself when relaying or reiterating something I've said. It's very mocking and I don't like to be associated with BM's behavior or compared to her... I hate that he does it.

But then I noticed it's the same mocking, immitation voice he uses for anyone who has upset him and he's making fun of. That's all him just telling a story, trying to get his point across using a technique that works for him.

As hard as it is, try not to take it personally.. and do your best not to "dare to compare". Your relationship and theirs have nothing to do with one another. He's just reacting, because it's his reactions.. not because he is feeling similar about you(in the whole scheme of things) as he does his exwife.

"For every ailment under the sun....There is a remedy, or there is none;
If there be one, try to find it; If there be none, never mind it." ~ W.W. Bartley