You are here

Reminded DH this is my weekend!

livinthedream's picture

Submitted by livinthedream on Sat, 06/20/2009 - 8:03am

I think Im goin to put on the calendar that this is my weekend. Do any of you get the cold treatment when sk's are visiting? When the sk's arent around suddenly DH picks up his handy dandy Raggedy Ann doll & decides its my weekend with my wife?? Last night, I let him know that I felt so priveledged & lucky to be "the one" who is chosen to go out to eat with him and go out with. DH said thats not sexy. I told him that it may not be sexy,but its the TRUTH!

To thine own self be true.......

Comments

lovelovelove's picture

Submitted by lovelovelove on Sat, 06/20/2009 - 10:51am

I become the maid and am no longer the wife. Then after SD's leave on Sunday night I am suddenly his best friend again, ie; DH wants sex.

Stick's picture

Submitted by Stick on Sat, 06/20/2009 - 3:14pm

I have to say that DH and I have "different" weekends planned when we have SD for the whole time. On weekends with SD, we do things like all sit down and watch movies together, or try to do something fun, kid (and now teen!)-related..

On weekends without SD, DH and I just take leisurely days and fire up the blender and have drinks at home and ENJOY each other's company. We don't worry about having sex in the living room, if the mood strikes, or coming home at a certain time, or making sure a child eats properly... Very very casual and relaxed and just the two of us. Very nice. Mini vacations.

The thing is... We have to realize that as STEP-FAMILIES - this could actually be ONE of the BENEFITS to our situation. Ask any step parent here that DOESN'T get a break... (including me, pretty much now, since SD only sees her mom once a week and for one overnight every other weekend).

If you and DH were to have children together, you'd hardly EVER get a break, and they would be few and far between! Also, DH might be exhibiting the same father traits that he is doing now! It might not be the KIDS. It might be HIM!! And to be honest, I think it's nice that he tries on his weekends to be a dad they want to be with. He's TRYING to have a relationship with his children. You can't really fault a guy for that.

So, if you can, try to look at the weekends with the kids as being "FOR" the kids. It can be hard, and it can be frustrating. Believe me, I have missed more parties and times out with friends than I care to.. and have also just felt like UGH do we have to do this THIS weekend? I had a fun single life and it was a big adjustment! But ... it also gives you and your DH a remarkable OPPORTUNITY to turn every other weekend into a special "DATE" weekend. And it can keep love alive when you have to plan for special times alone!

I think - it's all how you look at it. Is the glass half empty? Or, is the glass half full?