I'm having a particularly shit day today!!!! I'll give you a bit of background - when I met my partner he told me he had nothing to do with his ex wife apart from dealing with his son - otherwise he would never talk to her! She had an affair they had been apart 9 months!! I fell pregnant within 2 months of us being together - he moved in with me - quit his job to do what it was he always wanted which is to play the organ, it would take a few months for him to be financially stable again he said - fine I thought I was financially secure I said I would support him and would pay his £200 a month child support!! 6 months into our relationship I find out that actually he still talks to his exwife a lot - we'd had a row and he had called his ex and told her everything used her as a shoulder to cry on!! Also when I was 6 months preg he told me that he wasn't sure the baby was his (surprisingly after a conversation with his ex)!!!!! I'm so frustrated - he treats his exwife with the most respect his son practically lived with us for our first year together as we had him 297/365 days!!! And yes nearly 2 years later I'm still paying the £200 a month child support!! I'm pregnant again, I had lots of kidney infections during my first pregnancy and was in hospital 13 times!! I am 12 weeks pregnant now 3 weeks I developed another kidney infection so I was straight to the doctors, got my anti biotics, and painkillers - I carried on working and was coping well with it!! Then it was our days to have his son, within 2 days we all had the sick bug that his son came with, he knew he was ill, his exwife knew he'd been ill, my daughter us 9 months old - what sort of mother sends a child with a sick bug into a house with a baby, well it put me in hospital for 5 days, the pain from vomitting and my kidney infection and the dehydration was exhausting, I came home from hospital on the Sunday afternoon and by Sunday night I'd started bleeding!! Turns out there were two pregnancies and I had lost one of them!!- it's 3 weeks on and I'm still bleeding and still in lots of pain!!! I really feel like my partner has a responsibility to me and should have told his exwife that he wasn't going to have his son for a couple if days - delay it till he was better!!! He says he doesn't want to argue with her - but he's more than happy to argue with me - I feel so let down - I had a really shit pregnancy last time and I told my partner when we found out I was pregnant again that this one had to be different and I had to feel that the family he has now is just as important as his wife!! I don't know how much more of it I can take!! Or even how else to make him understand how I feel, I've shouted, I've talked calmly I've written a letter!!! Help!!!