Hi all. I’m new here. Kind of a long rant....

I thought maybe I was one of the only ones who felt hopeless when it came to adult step kids, but I see I’m not.  I’ve tried telling DH for the 7 1/2 years we have been together that SD just doesn’t like me.  Now mind you she is 27 now. I am not her mom. I don’t want to be her mom. I wanted to be her friend from day one. But she literally never gave me the chance. I invited her out to eat, to go do things, even had her flowers sent to work just because. But never once has she picked up the phone to say “hey do you want to go grab lunch” or “let’s go shopping”. 

Well 3 years ago she gets engaged to a really nice guy. Harder worker and very respectful guy. I was so excited for them. I offered to both of them if the needed help to please let me know. I never got one call or text to help with anything.  Just an invite as to when to show up for the bridal shower, rehearsal dinner and wedding. 

I was hurt to say the least. I wanted to be included in her life so much because I never had a daughter to share this moment with. But oh well. The week of her bridal shower, my brother was killed in an auto accident. The last thing on my mind was a bridal shower.  But my monster mother in law insisted I go and take her so. That was on a Saturday.  Sunday was the funeral.  Neither SS nor SD came to the funeral. 

When she got married, at the last moment they remembered they had to squeeze me in the wedding procession. I told them I really wasn’t interested or in the mood. Son in law and his mom said please.  I aid fine whatever.   DH and everyone else was mentioned at rehearsal dinner. Again, son in law and his mom had to mention my name because I had been “accidentally” left out.   

For the wedding I was in 2 photos out of the hundreds and hundreds they took. And to this day, we haven’t received a single one!!  

I told DH the was SD was acting that since she has never included me in her life, that I’ll never get to be involved in her children’s life. Guess what?  She got pregnant and we were told 6 hours before she blast the news on Facebook. She was already 4 months along.  She ended up having the baby 6 weeks early. He was just little, but no problems.  The whole time DH is excited about being Paw Paw and son in law’s parents along with SD mom and stepdad are over the moon with their grandparent nicknames.  Guess who is the only one who doesn’t have a nickname?  You got it, ME!!!! Yep, his Christmas gift, his Birthday gift we’re both signed from Paw Paw and Mrs. Susan

And what’s bad is I would so love to have a relationship with that child. But his mom won’t let me. I haven’t even seen him since last October. Not even for  Christmas or his first Birthday, which was March 25. 

And to top it all off, we had to go eat with DH kids today for Father’s Day. SS and son in law weren’t that bad. They made small talk. But SD just made it all about her and said how big her little boy is getting. Made me want to slap some sense & manners into her!!