I survived "Fun Night"
In case anyone was wondering, here is how Friday and "Fun Night" went. As you know, I was totally dreading the event, even to the point to where I was contemplating "coming down with something;" which, in all honesty, would not have been too far from the truth. I was getting myself all worked up and causing myself an upset stomach. Anyway, about mid-afternoon, I decided that the BM would enjoy my absence too much, and I couldn't give her that pleasure.
So, albeit begrudgingly, I arrived. BM is waiting for us outside the school, why, I'm not sure. So we don't get lost in the itty bitty elementary school? Anyway, she makes some comment about how she thought we were another couple she had seen earlier and was thinking about how much weight my BF had lost. Yes, he is a little overweight, but not that much. It had to make him self-conscience. Inwardly, I had to smile/grimmace at the same time. Then, she leads us into the gym, because SD wants him to meet her teacher. As happened last year, she introduced BF to SD's teacher and SD introduced her half sister and my son to her teacher. I, however, remained unintroduced. I wish I had done what Jaded would have done, and just introduced myself and blown everyone away. Unfortunately, I didn't, I just ignored her and the teacher and talked with the older SD and my son. The only person to even acknowledge my presence was BM's new husband. How sad.
Thankfully, about fifteen minutes into our arrival, BM decided to leave. The rest of the evening wasn't as horrible as last year. I received no evil eyes, no obvious gossiping whispers. I even ran into two former co-workers and chatted with them for awhile. The night wasn't anywhere near what I had expected.
I just have to add this in. Today, when BM picked up SD, she actually engaged a conversation! :jawdrop: She asked about BF's new car (that she thinks I bought as an anniversary gift to my BF; we sometimes have to lie for financial reasons, not that it's really any of her business)and that progressed to internet shopping. I was taken aback...what is she doing? However, I don't think she caught on to my surprise; I did my best to show no emotion other than what two normal people who don't hate each other would have when chatting. After about ten minutes of normal conversation, she finally left. OMG, I hope she's not trying to be friends.
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HER new husband?
I'm glad to hear that her dh was nice enough to acknowledge your presence.... out of curiosity, how long have they been marrie? Is he a nice guy?
I ask because maybe she is calming down that she had moved on?
Just a thought.
"Don't be distracted by criticism. Remember, the only taste of success some people ever have is when they take a bite out of you."
BM married her current
BM married her current husband a month after her and my BF's divorce was finalized. She was cheating with this guy for a long time. That should give you an idea of his character. Surprisingly, their marriage has lasted for about four years.
Honestly, the guy is kinda creepy. Sometimes, when I pick up SD on my way home from work, he answers the door without a shirt on and his pants undone! And he's nothing anyone wants to see like that. It makes me cringe just thinking about it! Of course, when he answers the door like that, and I'm standing on the front steps, I'm at the perfect eye level with his zipper. LOVELY!!! :barf:
What goes around comes around...
Oops!
I just noticed all of the missing letters and inocorrect verbage.... oops!
"Don't be distracted by criticism. Remember, the only taste of success some people ever have is when they take a bite out of you."
I am glad you went, not only
I am glad you went, not only did you show support for your SD, but you also showed BM that you aren't intimidated by her. BM starting up a conversation could be a good thing, but be careful, she could also be up to something. Last year ss won an essay contest. He was invited to read it in front of the Mayor and about 250 other people. It happened to be our day with him, so we took him to the event. BM didn't go to the event, but I run into her somewhere else afterwards. I go up to her to tell her how well ss did, and how proud of him we are and the most horrible thing happened. SHE HUGGED ME!! I could feel my skin trying to crawl away from my body, I am still traumatized by it six months later, it really freaked me out. All kidding aside BM in my case is mentally unstable, and it really made me wonder what her motives were. I figured later that she must have been on a mood upswing, or maybe her meds had just kicked in. Now when I see her somewhere, I go the opposite way, I don't think I could coax my skin to stay if it was ever traumatized like that again
**How seldom we weigh our neighbors in the same balance as ourselves. ~Thomas à Kempis**
Good Luck
The only time my hb's ex talks to me is if others are around she is trying to impress (coach, teacher, etc...). I have known her for a long time and she will never change, I hope things are different for you...I really tried. Being crazy is much harder than being sane...you have to plan it out. How will I be crazy today?, in what way?, what lenghts will I go through just to let that certain somone know that I "still care" about being insane? and so on...
I am so glad to have found people like me. I thought I was the only one going through this.
i was wondering how it went for you
and I think its fantastic that you went. I am sooo proud of you!!! I know how difficult it is.
I truly despise each and every time I have to see the dhs ex. I dont trust her as far as I can throw her. No matter how her bipolar acting self behaves, each time I am in her presence I feel this desperate need afterwards to rush home, burn my clothes and jump into a scorching hot, skin peeling shower. j/k. But I dont show her that. Cause I am and will remain to be a fabulous actress.
This is how I cope and still show support to dh and sds.
Funny you mentioned her dh acknowedging you. The new dh always makes it a point to have a conversation with myself and my husband. We get along great with him. Her on the other hand - uh uh, no way, no how - that would just screw up the whole alienation thing she has going on.
Do you offer acting lessons?
Because I just can't bring myself to "act" nice towards the wretched woman.
Sometimes...
just like BMs, we get worked up for no reason at all. My hubby accuses me of that ALL the time....overreacting. Sometimes we can be glad when it turns out to be "not as bad as you think".
I'm so glad that you were able to make the best of it. It is so scary when they start being nice but HOPEFULLY she's just coming around and is finally starting to move on with her life.
Thanks!
I wanted to say thank you to all of you wonderful people that took the time to read my posts, and also to those of you who replied. I've been a member of this site for almost a year now, but am just beginning to get up the courage to write about things. My first entry was pretty much me just blowing up. It is SO NICE to know that there are others out there that know how I feel! Again, thanks!
What goes around comes around...