Something said that I can’t get over.
Just a little add-on to my last blog. Something SDstb18 said to me around this time last year that I've never been able to get over. I'm going to slightly fudge some of the injury and accident details, just for anonymity, but the actual incident is the same in severity.
About four years ago, I was hit by a car. I had some brain and spinal injuries which took over a year to recover fully from. I've always been athletic, so going from being able to run 10k to barely being able to wear a backpack and walk up the stairs was devastating. During COVID, I tried a few different sports, swimming, rollerblading, yoga. I had some minor accidents with rollerblading, (cracked a rib and sprained a hand), but nothing like what happened before. And nothing as painful as all the ligament and muscle strains I used to get from long distance running in my 20's. The SDs knew about the sports I liked to do, and they knew about my major injury from that car accident. When I minorly fractured a rib on my rollerblades, SD17 laughed about it and said:
"Mom says this is why you always hurt yourself. You think you get good at something, and then you get cocky and hurt yourself. Like when you got run over by a car hahahahaha."
I'm not ever going to get over that.
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What a bitch. I'm pretty
What a bitch. I'm pretty impressed that you persisted with all those sports! Ask the kid if it ever occurs to her to use her own brain instead of her mother's.
I was thinking the same thing
What a horrible insensitive person she is.
"Your mom said that about me? Maybe shes got too much time on her hands..."
Considering she only worked
Considering she only worked about a month straight over the last two years, most likely YES.
"guess I live rent free in
"guess I live rent free in your mom's head."
"I''m honored that you and your mom spend a lot of time discussing me. "
"wow she needs a better hobby"
"that is just funny kiddo"
BM is into fitness. She used
BM is into fitness. She used to be plus sized, and had surgery and is now a different size. She looks great. I've only ever been in her presence twice, and both times she and I just said "hi" to each other. She did blow up my phone when she found out about SO and I, but I didn't answer. She chose to leave SO, and she got a beautiful house and a nice monthly paycheck until the SD's are 24 out of it. Once SD17 got comfortable with me, she would say I was so skinny, I wore too much floral, I was too young, my condo is nice but it's too small, I don't wear enough makeup, I wear too much makeup. SD17 went through my cosmetic bag that I brought over to SO's place and sent a photo of my anxiety medication to her mom.
Now that I'm a different size, I keep hearing that I've given up on my relationship. The SDs, BM, and I could probably all share clothes. (Probably why some of my clothes have gone missing).
I just never did anything to start this. BM actually doesn't have any reason to be jealous.
I feel this
Just your presence causes an insecurity in BM, so she feels that you and her are in competition. This passes on to SD, and all of this BS comes out. These BM's are so jealous and insecure. This happened with me too, it's always some criticisms about my weight, height, what I have, and how if I have something nicer than Crazy (not to brag at all, but everything I have is nicer than that gutter-troll's because she is trashy by nature) that I probably had to have someone co-sign, or some other ridiculous way of obtaining it. It's like being in high school all over again.
Yes definitely agree! They
Yes definitely agree! They are so jealous and it's sickening for her to say that after such a serious accident. You could have died! How do these people sleep at night??
I get the comments as well. DH and I are sitting together on a picnic rug and he puts his arm around me and kisses me. SD says 'oh wow Floral you look like a teenager! You are so small enough to look that young'. I just looked looked at her and then looked at DH and she immediately said 'oh it's a compliment!' She's 8 years old and almost PAS'd. It seemed an odd thing for her to say and I didn't like her comment. I'm petite, and a small size. I know toxic BM is taller than me and bigger built so I just know it's come from her. The insecurity and jealousy is just so annoying!
The officer on scene said it
The officer on scene said it would've been a different story if I'd gone under the car instead of over.
Ugh
SD sounds really unpleasant. But really as an adult you can understand that she is getting PAS'd from BM. Not an excuse for her behavior but sometimes understanding the root cause makes it less about you. It wouldn't really matter if it were you or someone else, anyone else in SO's life - they would get this same passive aggressive treatment.
So don't really listen to any of this and disengage. What SD said in the last may still sting but use that as a reminder to not re-engage with her.
I would have responded “SD
I would have responded “SD that shade of green on you looks really bad.” Sounds like they are just a bunch of shallow mean girls who lack self-confidence. Despite BM losing all the weight she probably still lacks the self-esteem and confidence she sees you have.
I probably would have responded back..
what is your mother like 5?? Only rude insenstive people would make fun someone being hit by car. Does she kill small animals for fun?
However, I'm not known for my tact when pushed..
Most likely she is threatened by you....and reacts like a high school mean girl.
Ignore....but I get it is hard to do.