SD16 and SD19 have been excelling in school in the past year. My SO is the same helicopter parent as usual, and their mom is has been on a new tangent. As per SD19, her mom says she wants her to put off being an "independent feminist" worker and have kids instead. SD19 has full scholarships to university here.

Why would a mom want her girls to be baby makers and not independent?

FYI - I may delete this soon. Under a lot of stress, so it helps to let out.

My stepmom of over 30 years passed away very suddenly two nights ago. She died in my dad and my sisters arms. I didn't have the best relationship with her, so I don't know how to feel.

If any stepkids are here, please let your stepparent know that you appreciate them. It's such an easy thing to do. I never did. 

I've been with SO for five years now. One SD is an adult and on her way to uni, the other is about to turn 16. Both are planning to live on campus or independently for post secondary.

So I waited. All this time, SO wanted me to move in. Wanted us to get married. I waited until his kids were more independent and not feeling threatened by me (not "taking their dad away"). I freaking waited this whole time.

SO invited me over to his place for the weekend, even though he's working nights. This is common in our relationship, but he neglected to mention that SD18 was staying with him due to antivaxx BM having COVID yet again.  He goes for a deep daytime sleep, and she parks herself next to me on the couch and proceeds to talk at me for the next three hours. She likes to talk A LOT, and she enjoys an audience. I got to hear all about how she asked her mom about how she fell in love with my SO, how she felt it was true love at the time, but now she still cares about him.