How to survive RUDE adult skids???????

Man, I am so ready to give up. 4 adult step kids, 3 treat me like I am non existent. As well as their significant others. They bring their mommy (husbands ex) to everything. They barely can give me eye contact. On generous days they will give me a polite hello and polite good by, but nothing I between! Hubby WONT do anything because that would alienate them, so he thinks. So this leaves me to deal with it. But after almost 7 years, I don't want to deal with it...and it is destroying my love for my hubby.....

What do you all out there do?

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I would not go anywhere I was

I would not go anywhere I was made to feel unwelcome.

I have to ask...what more do you want than a polite hello and goodbye?

I have had similar

I have had similar experiences and all I really want is to be treated like a human. I want a little respect. Just treat me as well as you would any stranger that someone invited to the party. That's all I ask. Gee whiz. I don't think that's too much.

My bio-sons had a stepmother growing up. They didn't have a wonderful relationship, but now that they're grown, she has been at one wedding and the births of two children along with myself, my ex-husband, and my DD who is NOT her stepkid. EVERYBODY treats her with civility. She held the babies. She was in the wedding pictures. She hugged the bride and groom. I would seriously hand my kids their asses if they treated her with disrespect. And I wasn't a stepmother myself when the wedding and births happened.

I want conversation. Mi want

I want conversation. Mi want to know that care about me and their dad. I want to be included in the interaction rather than totally ignored. I want to be acknowledged. When I ask them how they are doing, I want them to answer me!!!

For clarity, I don't expect

For clarity, I don't expect to force anything! It's rude on my part to not ask how things are going, how's the job, how's your mom, basic stuff that people do when they are at the same function or dinner or whatever. OR WHEN THEY COME INTO MY HOUSE! If you are accepting an invitation to thanksgiving for example, you should be polite to the hostess... General basic kindness is expected...
Invite them out of love for their father and our home is one place they seem to know they cannot bring their mother! So for me not to endure her I choose to cook!

Yes ~red red wine~ (cute

Yes ~~~red red wine~~~ (cute signature, wish I had thoWe have many discussions about it....he says, what do you want me to do, alienate them..... I say tell them to grow up and treat my wife as a human being!
There is so much more than I said to begin with, I am new here and really looking for useable help. Things like walking into our house, walking right by ME and not saying a word. Things like if I'm not in the house yet they are, they look thru MY stuff, closets and such! Things like coming to our house for Christmas dinner and NOT even including me in a gift, totally ignoring me, not even saying Merry Christmas, yet I do get a , well it's nice seeing you and thanks for dinner. Yet they cannot even say hi how are ya. The newest thing is don't make eye contact so that way she cannot talk to you.! When we offer to take them out to supper, just before arriving the say, can mom come too, she's all alone! Oh and texting "someone" probably mom while in our house, they seem to spend a lot of time in the bathroom, probably text mom! Or each other, I actually have observed one texting and the other reading a text.....
So the question is, is there only 2 answers...
1. Deal with it and never say anything
2. Divorce
Are those the only choices...
Ugh!

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Milannye