Will this set-up work in our marriage?
:? Not sure if that was the right subject line but I'm wondering and questioning something my husband and I have decided may be in the best interest of our marriage. We have been married 8 years and our 3 daughters are 29, 25 and 24. I have 2 stepdaughters who really resent and/or dislike me. I honestly entered my marriage with open arms and an open heart and tried the best I could to develop a relationship with them. I felt sorry for both of them because 5 years prior to my marrying their father their mother had died of cancer (42 years old). Over the years it seems things have gone from difficult to disaterous as far as any relationship between us. I have been disrespected and my marriage has taken a beating.
Last weekend after yet another "round" of arguments because my husband just wants everyone to get along and be a family, we decided that maybe it would be best if we keep our lives with our biological children separate. I guess what this means is that we will not all be getting together for holidays, birthdays, etc. I think I feel I am just exhausted with all of the bad feelings I am willing to try ANYTHING! My husband has a great relationship with my bio daughter but it just doesn't seem fair for some reason that he gets to be a part of her life but I am not going to be a part of his daughters lives. I'm feeling confused and emotionally messed up but this may be the only way to save our marriage at this point.
Anyone have any comments, ideas or has anyone actually seperated their relationships like this?
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i agree. I think you need to
i agree. I think you need to put your marriage first for awhile! Set up your boundaries and see what happens!