Someone talk me off the ledge.
I'm so livid right now I can't even explain.
So Wednesday we got very sad news about our 7 year old American bulldog/boxer. She went to the vent because of a lump on her back but, that was just a fatty tumor and the X-rays showed she has a large mass in her lung and stomach. She's had a rough year with cancer... leg amputated last October, a nipple had to be cut in off in may because of cancer so there really isn't anything we can do. She's acting OK. Still eating and happy but, she's been more sleepy.
So... here's why I am mad. SD must have texted BM about her so BM decided to take SD to Walmart yesterday and maybe for food. Don't know. Mind you she hasn't done anything with her since august 2019. My guess it had to do with the dog. SO got her after their divorce so it was never BMs dog too.
WELL! When she picked up SD yesterday she came to the door and was like "cannn I comeeee say hiiiiiii to themmmm?!" SD says yeah and BM walks in to the fucking house!!! I didn't check the cameras yesterday but did today. I was instantly infuriated.
It gets better.... when she brings SD back.... she goes in the backyard hanging out with the dogs and giving them treats. WTF!!!!!! NOOO THIS IS NOT OK!!!
SO didn't mention any of this to me. I don't know if he realized. He is working I already texted him like wtf!! He will see my texts when he turns his phone on. I'll see what he has to say. If he gives me hard time about it I'm going to snap.
So BM using my dogs to hang out at our house. Guys, I'm ready to explode.
Edit: When she picked up SD I was working and so was SO. When she dropped SD off SO was home but next door working on his friends house. He didn't come home when BM was there.
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Sorry about your pooch - I
Sorry about your pooch - I had to watch my previously healthy dog slowly die for a month this summer from a sudden illness. Putting her down was the worst, and I still miss her every day.
As for SD, I hope your SO will read her the riot act? It might not have occurred to her that she shouldn't invite BM in since BM never comes around.
And yes, anything good or bad going on in your lives, BM wants to extract narcissistic supply from - and make she SHE's the one who's helping SD deal with it (in her head, not in reality).
Yepp! 100%
It's very sad with animals it's like losing a part of your soul . She's so young too. :/.
Yepp! 100%
I wouldn't like BM just
I wouldn't like BM just randomly popping over for any reason other than an emergency. That's why custody schedules are so great. No surprise visits from BM and no endless texts and phone calls about where the kid is sleeping and when. They only work if you follow them, though.
Ok update:
Ok update:
SO did NOT realize BM was in the house. He said he saw her on the back porch (via camera) I told him NONE OF IT WAS OK!
He agreed and said that is was real ballsy for BM to walk in like that. He agreed that she was using our dog as a way to get to the skids and our house.
So he calls her....
Tells her that she can NOT come into our house. She responds with "I was just pettinnngggg the dyingggg dog" kept claiming she was in the "threshold"
No you weren't we have you ON CAMERA.
Then she goes with I can't believe it's come to this... I've known you for 20+ years.... I can't even huggg my sonnnnn!!"
NO ONE SAID YOU CANT DO STUFF WITH THE KIDS. TAKE THEM WHENEVER YOU WANT. YOU WILL NOT HANG OUT AT OUR HOUSE.
He said something to her like you need to be respectful. She said ok and hung up.
Now, what happens next is totally new.
SO gets another phone call.. he thinks it's her still going.. NOPE her husband! "Why are you yelling at me wife?"
LOLLLLL WHATTTTT
SO goes "BMs husband I'm not yelling at your wife. I have no beef with you BUT When she came to pick up SD yesterday she went into our house while we weren't home and this is not ok. SO explains that he would NEVER do this to them etc. BMs husband claims something it's about the kids (which SO said they aren't kids they are almost adults) but agreed that BM shouldn't do that. SO said that clearly BM and missk don't get along so BM can't be doing this as it will cause a rift and she shouldn't have anyways (I didn't agree with SO making this statement but whatever)
SO said he heard BM crying in the background the whole time. Pathetic.
Then SO calls SD to get to her before BM and just said listen I'm not mad at you or anything but your mom can't come into the house. Especially when we aren't home etc. SD just said ok she understands.
Shes sick. SO said that poor bastard too doesn't have a clue. (Meaning BMs husband)
Can't make it up!
Well, BM's H married a woman
Well, BM's H married a woman who can't even be bothered with her own kids - I'd expect nothing less from a man who thinks that's okay.
If we caught BM in our house via camera, she'd be in handcuffs. So her H should consider himself lucky he's not bailing her out right now.
He's bioless and probably
He's bioless and probably wouldn't care if he never saw skids again. He isn't kid friendly (in my words). Never did a thing for them in the 7ish years they have been together. That's kind of why the kids didn't want to go to her house anymore.
Lol her husband called your man... lol the balls on him to do
That!! Heck my husbands exwife had an affair with current husband whilst married to my husband. Any lies bio mum spews he's too chicken shit to address it or meet my husband because he will never be a 1/4 of the man my husband is!!
RIGHT??! This is the first
RIGHT??! This is the first time that has EVER happened. SO was thrown off by that.
You too???
You too???
Does any of dh's "kids: look like the dude?
true story here.
Lol i have never seen the man or met him.
Hubbys exwife sabotaged any pregnancy attempts, 1st pregnancy 2 months into their marriage she went to hospital one day claimed she had a miscarriage but hubby suspected she went in for an abortion and passed it off as a miscarriage, didn't even bother to tell him till he got home from work like it was no biggie.
she desperately tried so bad to sabotage any attempts at getting pregnant, hubby was just her atm to use and abuse. They had 3 kids and hubby could not attend any appts, he was to rock to the birth where she screamed at the drs and nurses to cut the baby out of her as she couldn't be bothered with labor or pushi a baby out of her vagina. Hubby was there to pay for the bill.
at home she rarely cared for the kids whilst hubby remained sole income earner their whole marriage. After 3rd kid was born, he felt this was no life to live but had to stay for the kids till his dad convinced him to prioritize his life and sanity against this psychotic abusive narc bitc*!!
all hell broke loose... turns out she'd reconnected with her old highschool bf a year before they separataed and hubbys sister who lived next door and the neighbours knew she was having an affair and no one thought to say anything to my husband.
youngest sd15 looks a bit like my husband but has her mums fave shape and some of bio mums looks and weirdly is super dark skin coloured, darker than hubby or bio mum, sd25 100% looks like bio mum (no hubby in her) she loves to remind hubby he owes her cs indefinitely despite being in graduate fulltime employment since feb 2018
ss22.5 has hubbys face shape, tiny looks like hubby but mostly biomum.
if biomum had gotten pregnant the last year before hubby initiated the divorce, it wouldn't be hubbies since he refused to have sex with her. He was no longer desperate for it and was repulsed by her.
weirdly enough, my 2 kids with hubby, are exact replicas of daddy with fairier skin since i am eurasian and very fair skin coloured. Somehow my kids look more like hubby. Hubbys siblings also most of the kids follow the looks of hubbys siblings, very rarely do they completely follow the inlaws looks. Hubbys family have certain bone structure and features
i won't go down the line of hubby questioning paternity because in his asian country, its assumed by the courts and birth registry dept that any births during that marriage are the product of that marriage!!
i will say this though, all of my skids hubby says are exact replicas of bio mum. Not one of them inherited hubbys behaviour or work ethic... they are just as effed up as their crazy mum and her family
No way. She needs to keep
No way. She needs to keep her a$$ out of your house. period. Good on your hubby for calling it out.