I beleive it is time for me to take over with ss
I want to start by saying I don't hat ss. I really don't. I understand his issues are all based on the fact that no one ever made hime do anything, and he is definitely his mothers child. I do however hate that he is quite possibly the lazy fucking person I have ever comeinto contact with and he is absolutely incapable of fitting into society.
He lives in a pig sty. And I will not have it anymore. I am done. He has been told over and over to clean his room. There is garbage every where. When I do venture in, I find food and wrappers stuffed under clothes and between pillows. Half my flatware and almost all of my glasses are in there somewhere. I can't see them, but they sure as hell aren't in my cabinets. And since there are no dirty dishes, that also rules out the sink. He was told last night by dh and this morning by me to clean it...again. Sill not done. I told dh he is not going to his after school thing tomorrow. He looked at me like I had 2 heads and said why didn't you remind him? I said Dude, he is 15 years old. He knows it is not acceptable. I should not have to remind him, and I am taking over with the discipline. If I have to be the evil step mother, so be it. He is not at all equipped for life, and he isn;t aitting on his ass in MY home for years to come. Sorry. It's bad enough we get no CS. Once he is 18, I am done supporting his lazy ass.
In addition, he has no friends. Because he is a jack ass who argues with everyone because he THINKS he knows everything. I am sick of having a 15 year old ask every friday "what are we doing this weekend". Get some friends and go out like normal teen agers do. We should not be your entertainment at this point in your life. We do things with dd on the weekend. She is 6. If you want to go hang out at the zoo or kiddie playground with mommy and daddy at your age, feel free to come along. But don't expect much that you will enjoy.
A prime example of his bad behavior. I got a call from the school nurse today. She wanted to let me know that he was showing off and decided to stab himself in the hand with a pencil. I'm sure he thought he would get sent home, since it's been 2 weeks since he had a suspension and he probably needs a break. She looked at, cleaned it and sent him back to class since there was no lead. WTF is wrong with this kid??
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No, it is not my husband. He
No, it is not my husband. He has only lived with us for a short time. We had him one day every other week until then. Not much parenting gets done in that time. And it's terribly hard to fix 14 1/4years of nothing. I think dh doesn't want to hurt him at this point, because his mother has essentially turned her back on the kid and he doesn't want him to feel like he has done the same. I should have explained that, and you should not have jumped to conclusions.
SS knows he does it to impress others as far as the stabbing crap. He will be the first to admit it. We put him in counseling when he first came to live with us. He realizes he has self eteem issues, and knows why.
"He looked at me like I had 2
"He looked at me like I had 2 heads and said why didn't you remind him?"
This statement right here pretty much makes me think Dad abdicated his 'authority' to Stepmom. I don't consider it cutting Dad off at the knees... I think it's Stepmom taking control of something she's obviously EXPECTED to take care of.
That's exactly right. I
That's exactly right. I amhere full time, dh works at least 50 hours a week. And frankly, it does matter if he respects me. He doesn't respect anyone BUT dh and I. DH is a good dad with everything else. He talks to him about his issues in school and deals with all his other stuff. DH doesn't think the room thing is that big of a deal in the grand scheme of things considering everything else. I however do. And I will not have it in my home. My daughter is not going to grow up thinking that iit is A OK to live like a pig.