wow, after reading some of the stories here I am actually quite thankful for my future husband to be! We willl be married in July 2010, I have 3 children, he has one, mine are grown and either out of college or in college. My main issue is my soon to be SD13 and the BM. On more than one occasion the SD has argued with my HTB about school, grades, attendance and usually ends up name calling and yelling. He of course holds his tongue but she thinks nothing of call him nasty, disgusting names and dropping the "F"-bomb telling him she hates him, doesnt want to see hime, etc. The most recent occurance he finally had enough! He says no more weekends over or anything for that matter until SD13 steps up to plate and apologizes and asks his forgiveness. She misses alot of school while BM makes excuses for her absence's. BM wants a 3rd meeting with us to discuss SD13 behavior and visitation. My HTB pays CS and all medical, dental, vision, takes her to Orthdontist appts and pays half of that, schedued counseling to start in Jan, etc. BM wnats her "time alone" and wants my HTB to give in on the aplology thing and welcome her into our home so she can go do her thing, which doesnt matter anyway because she leaves her alone for days on end 3 or 4 days, while shes hours away and doesnt tell us that the SD13 is home alone with influenza! I went to local bookstore nad bought 5 books trying to gain skills to deal with the two of them! They are driving me crazy!!! HTB is awesome and knows how stressed we both get when the proverbial s*** hits the fan! But I need help he cant give me and I also need to be educated so that I can help him and be his "rock" when he gets down because only I know how much it hurts him when she she says these things to him. Anyone have any ideas?? Books, DVD's, seminars, anything????