Just found out SD11 will NOT be spending the summer with us! H asked BM to contibute to the childcare bill & just as I suspected she said it was too much money & decided to put her in another childcare program by her house the was MUCH cheaper & H will b contibuting to that instead.

So now I wonder why this option wasn't presented in the first place (apparently SD's childcare costs are not a concern until BM might have to contribute), but whatever the reason, this has lifted a GREAT stress off my shoulders, as I was prepared to explain tonight why I could not agree to this visit until we see how marriage counseling goes first.

One less thing to stress about, but unfortunately the visit itself was not the problem & neither is SD11 herself, so we still have a long way to go...