Where to begin???

I asked DH to bring his clean clothes up couple weeks ago....they are still sitting where the clean clothes go..they sat and sat.

DH does NOTHING around the house, nor does his 6 yr old. DH has a fish tank that he cleans 1x wk and that's it. My BS17 and I do everything! If DH sees something that needs done he will pay my son to do it, like last weekend, dusting and vacuuming downstairs....that's fine and dandy if he wants to pay my son to do stuff, buut dang dude, get off your A$$!!! I told DH that's fine if he doesn't want to take care of his clean clothes, I'm just not going to wash any until the clothes are taken care of, not gonna struggle to make sure all his clothes aren't gonnna fall or whatever. Well he decides to tell me that it's MY job to put hiis clothes away....uh I don't think so buddy...He tells me that he works hard ALL day long ( 1-2 hour lunches at home) and all I do is sit on my ass all day and pump blood pressure cuffs (making the noise)...I work hard! I am a full time medical assistant in a BUSY clinic, how dare him tell me that my job is not hard....UGH!!!!

Tuesday he started in on me, going through my pantie drawer telling me that he needs to find something to wear since he doesn't have any clean boxers, I told him he was a big boy and he new how to start the washer. All day long I'd talk to him through text and all he would say to me was "laundry". So i get home, I ask him if he is ready to go out to dinnner, he said no that he doesn't have any clean clothes, he's been home for 1.5 hours by now, well he could have started some when they were waiting for me....

So, it's 6:30, I'm upset (crying) kids are hungry, so I asked DH if he was gonna go, he said he doesn't have any clean clothes...I said fine, then me, BS and SS are gonna go to Olive Garden....well we had an errand to run first, came back home and DH is seperating our finances, since I don't want to do his laundry, he wants US to be seperate in a household. But yet, I still have to get his son ready for school in the morning, and my son still has to pick him up after school, but OUR finances are going to be seperate!!!! I was like ok...the kids had McDonalds...I was so upset that he waas acting like this, all over laundry....

and to top it off...yesterday was my birthday....what a shitty day.....

sorry ladies, just had to vent...I am so hurt that he treated me soooo poorley on my bday...just can't believe it.