My BF does not do anything around the house. My son mows the lawn and shovels. BF just bought a house and wew have agreed that I will take care of the inside and he will take care of the outside. He tried to get me to mow the other day and I refused. I told him when he starts doing laundry, dishes, scrubs toilets, etc then I will help him with the lawn. He shut right up. I have to remind him to pay his bills - his laywer, insurance, and his mother. I have to help him (do almost all of it) with the correspondence via email with his ex regarding their son. Last night, I told him that I have too much stuff on my plate (3 schedules for the kids, work, taking care of the house,helping get the new house ready to move into, etc) and I needed him to start dealing with his ex himself. He got pretty upset. I told him I would be more than happy to give him advise but I am not emailing her for him anymore. BF had the nerve to tell me that I was acting like her - making him take care of his own sh*t. WTF! I have asked my BF many times to come with me to pick up my BD7 from her father and he always refuses so why should I help him with his ex. I go with my BF every Sunday to see his son so he does not have to meet with BM alone. I am tired and not sleeping well because I am so busy. I cannot believe it was such a big deal for him to deal with his ex himself. I know he does not want to do it but she's not my ex. I have my own PINA ex to deal with.

Thank you for reading my vent. I feel better all ready!

My husband helps me all the time. My ex-husband was pretty good about that stuff too. The only thing I insist on doing is the laundry, but my hubby will help fold and put the clothes away.

At work. At home, it's another story. I mean, he cuts the lawn, trims the hedges, takes out the trash and all that other manly stuff. I'm a SAHM, so I figure it's my job to do most of the cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. It works for us most of the time. He's really good when it comes to household repairs, building things, maintaining the house and cars. Getting him to do it requires an Act of Congress, though. Also, he doesn't grasp the little things, like putting his dirty clothes IN the hamper instead of on the floor in front of the hamper, remembering to put his glass in the sink instead of leaving it on the coaster on the end table beside his chair, replacing the toilet paper when it runs out, etc. His excuse is that I like to do things myself because he doesn't do them "right." That's actually very true, but I have a feeling he does them "wrong" to get out of doing them! :puzzled:

♥ Georgia ♥

"Good men don't just happen. They have to be created by us women." (from ROSEANNE)

My hubby helps out....I can't say he cleans like a woman,but he does pretty good. He also cooks and does a fine job of it!! He "tries" to do laundry, but this is something I wish he would forget about..he sucks at it big time. Does not know how to sort clothes, washes EVERYTHING in hot water (many things that are white turn pink because of a red shirt or something of that nature put in with it), he also shrinks things bigtime,,,,things in the dryer that should not be there...that kind of thing. So we have many "discussions" about hubby NOT doing the laundry...just wish he would listen!!

Corie

He said to me....who cares if the white shirts all look pink now...no biggy...or gray because they were washed with black pants. Hate to bust your bubble here, but it is a biggy....to me! LOL If hubby used cold water it wouldn't be as bad!!

Corie

He never minds chipping in, especially when it comes to cooking. He puts his laundry away (but not for a week sometimes till I prompt him.) My only annoyance is that he has tons of energy for the "guy" jobs, but doesn't always feel a sense of urgency. Meaning we have the most awful looking lawn every spring in an allotment full of meticulous lawns. I don't care about it being perfect, but I hate to pull up to ours and it's full of dandelions and over grown. (Our "evil" next door neighbor even wrote us a nasty letter a few years ago in the spring because she was blaming her clover in her lawn on us (it was actually coming from a blind woman's yard next door, but I'm sure she didn't know how to address that person so she blamed us.)

Also, I have to constantly remind him to do things like change the water filter or add softener salt (which is a physical challenge for me.) When my exH remodeled our basement he put an external furnace filter so I could change it easier myself because DH NEVER remembers.

I think with many men you need to make a list and then they can check it off. This works best with DH. Otherwise I'm nagging him which bothers me more than him.

“I never gave away anything without wishing I had kept it; nor kept it without wishing I had given it away.” ~Louise Brooks

I ask my DH to do something and if it doesn't get done after a day or two, then I put it on "the joblist." For some reason, seeing it written down on the chalkboard in the kitchen spurs him into action like nothing else. He's just like a kid, I guess. Likes to see the little star I put up there when he gets the items done.

♥ Georgia ♥

"Good men don't just happen. They have to be created by us women." (from ROSEANNE)