I have never blogged so we will see how this works. I love my husband and his kids and my kids I hope one day it will just be our kids but last thing I read says it takes 7 years sigh. My ex seems to be great with his new kids as he ignores ours. Ron my husband now for the most part is great with the kids even my 17 year old who lived with us up till last month what a tough situation for a new marriage but he handled it like a champ. I guess what gets to me is he plays favorites with his sons. Granted he doesn't get to see them as often we only have the younger 2 boys every other weekend. My ex disowned my daughter who had the baby for awhile so she moved in he has our youngest daughter who is 15 she use to come over every weekend but that has changed some. It is like his son JB who I had got along with I thought very well in till he blew up and slammed the car door I told him he could not do that granted I was upset I had a migraine and he did not want to go home with us so was stalling any ways Ron didn't say anything just told me not to yell at him. His ex who I don't know at very well at all except threw the boys and what Ron says so I try not to judge. She does tell the boys to call her new husband Dad and Ron Ron which hurts him but instead of talking to the boys much about it he just ignores it. I sense then try to just stay out of the boys stuff and be a adult friend which is hard when the 16 year old is making the 11 year old scream or when Ron leaves and I am expected to entertain the 11 year old. I have health issues. I am a disabled vet who has Pstd and heart problems. I want all of us to get along and I do love the boys. I just feel like my kids are getting 2nd fiddle again and am not sure how to handle any of it. If anyone has suggestions of how to talk to my husband who I love very much but would rather sweep it all under a rug and ignore it, please reply.