My husband and I have been married for 6 months now. I have some feelings that are driving me nuts and it is to the point that it is causing us problems and I have got to find a way to deal with them. My problem is that I feel his ex-wife has no boundaries. My husband has his daughters every Friday and every other week-end. Since we have been married, we have had one week-end that the ex-wife isn't calling for some reason(she calls saying they are crying for him, she calls wanting to know if they have any summer clothes in the attic to which even if there had been the girls would have outgrown them and this call is at 9:00 p.m on a Saturday night that we don't have them, she calls to say the 3 year old has peed in the potty) and she plays a huge role, I feel, in our marriage. I feel that my husband bends over backwards to accomodate her and it is really taking a toll on our relationship. The first time that we came to blows over this was Valentine's week-end. We had gone to a movie and when we came out, the ex had called saying her husband had left with her keys, she remarried around the first of the year, and wanted to know if my husband had any extra keys and if so would he bring them to her. I said, "let them deal with it, even if her husband has to take her keys back to her" his response was that his kids were down there and which I responded, "it is not an emergency, they are not locked out and they can handle it". Needless to say....our Valentine's dinner was ruined. Last week-end, he took them home on Saturday morning and early Sunday morning she is calling saying the little one is crying for him. So, he goes down there. Later that evening we are at my in-laws and she calls him because the girls are fighting. I know that his ex is going to be in our lives but all that I am asking is that on the week-ends that she has the girls that she shouldn't be calling and now realizing just how much she does call, I wonder how much is too much? I have tried to discuss this with him and I told him I don't think he realizes how much she does call,they communicate and said, why don't you keep a log for 2 weeks and you will see that she doesn't call the week-ends that we have the kids, its the week-ends that she has them. Yesterday, I was with him when he exchanged them (my first time) and the ex gets out of her vehicle and he gets out and puts the kids in his ex's vehicle. I just really feel that I am 2nd to her. He tells me that this is my problem as it doesn't bother him so it shouldn't bother me and that this is my own insecurities and that I had better be dealing with them and that they are getting along. He had talked to my Mom and my Mom tried to help him see that there is too much interaction and he justifies his ex by saying, she don't call that much. So, what I do? Has anybody had similar problems. I love my husband and this is something that was so small but it had turned into a mountain and now my husband and I aren't even speaking. I don't feel that I am asking for much. The week-ends that we have the kids, she is free to spend it with her husband and I feel that I should get the same thing. If I am wrong, how do I resolve this and if not, how do I get my husband to see how I feel. I think that is the other factor is that he just dismisses it as being "my" problem.