husband says we are bringing kids on honeymoon (including the evil one that causes us too argue all the time)

We never had enough money for a honeymoon last year. We are going this year.

In conversation discussing renewing our vows and going on honeymoon right away. Dh say's yes I want the kids with us of course. I would love having them with us. This is including the evil one he refuses too admit is dangerous to our baby who we will take with us because we don't have childcare.

Am I the one that is inconsiderate! I don't get his thought process sometimes. He tells me this is normal and its no big deal. Followed with a horrified look when I say polietly that I would prefer just us.

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If he insists on taking his

If he insists on taking his kids and you don't even want to take your own kids, then I highly recommend you are adamant about NOT going on the honeymoon if he INSISTS on taking his kids.

Do not waste your money and or sanity on going on a Special trip that is meant for ADULTs not kids. Don't do it!

Ditto!! It should not be

Ditto!! It should not be called a HONEYMOON if ANY of your children (shared or not) are present.

Tell him you can plan a family vacation some other time with all the kids, and then make sure it's a vacation that won't cause you as much stress with the skid you're having trouble with.

Ok, if the kids go....it is

Ok, if the kids go....it is not a HONEY MOON, it is a FAMILY VACATION.

Why can't he just get his head out of his ass and realize this???? It's one frikin vacation! ONE!

They did go back to get all

They did go back to get all the kids. Sorry to burst your bubble on that one. But I wold tell him that you 2 need some ALONE time! All couples need some of that! Maybe do a compromise like maybe have them there for the renewal and but not on the honeymoon. I would also tell him that we need to come up with a compromise yes use the word compromise. I use it all the time, that way it looks like you are willing to give him something if he gives you something. }:)

Sometimes I wonder how I got

Sometimes I wonder how I got here

Good...he wants the kids on

Good...he wants the kids on your honeymoon? Make them ALL tshirts that say "on OUR honeymoon" and send them on their way...go spend the same amount on YOURSELF instead...

Time to go all in on this

Time to go all in on this hand IMHO. Tell him if he takes his kids on YOUR honeymoon that you will not be going on the honeymoon and will not be there when he gets back.

Do not cave on this. If the skids go, you don't, and have annulment papers waiting when he gets home. If you currently live together, change the locks if he goes on YOUR honeymoon with HIS kids and without you.

Your kids don't go, his kids don't go and if they do you don't go.

End of story, end of problem.

He's trying to kill 2 birds

He's trying to kill 2 birds with 1 stone. Family vacation to please the kids, honeymoon to please the wife... dont' buy that.r

I'd tell him that you will

I'd tell him that you will take a rain check and to get back to you when he can find somewhere for them to go. That is not a honeymoon but a nightmare.

I agree...honeymoons are a

I agree...honeymoons are a celebration of your marriage. You are the only two married to each other so you should be the only two their for the honeymoon.

Tell him that once you return from the honeymoon you can sit down with a calander and budget out a time for a family vacation which would then include the entire family. (kids)

Good GOD NO! end of story!!!

Good GOD NO! end of story!!! WTF

Whateva

Thats all I have to say.

:sick: Thats all I have to say.

HS that is why I told her to

HS that is why I told her to try a compromise with him. I know that for us we only had one night to ourselves and never really had a honeymoon. However we go to a theme park almost every year (season passes) and several times a year either his mom or my mom will go with us to let us have some alone time. We can go into the town (tourist town) while they have the kids back at the camp site or the hotel. Or my fav. is that they will leave one day early with the kids.

Last year my dh had it set up that his mom went with us for the whole weekend and he surprised me with her baby sitting and he took me to the Titanic museum.

Anyway my point is I think she should try a comprise somehow with him and find out WHY he wants the kids there and why he feels the way he feels. Then yes he should do the same thing with her.

Yes HS we never could afford

Yes HS we never could afford a honey moon or a vacation every year. I have found that compromise is my best friend. It took a while for me to see that but once I did WOW it opened up a lot for me and my marriage. Just a little compromise can be the biggest of them all. Such as we used to fight and fight over meal time b/c his kids thought they were supposed to get whatever they wanted and I was supposed to cook several meals. Well dh was very concerned about them not eating. When we finally took this to a councilor she said try a peanut butter sandwich only nothing else to with it not even jelly. But it will also let you know what they really like and don't like. Once we started that it was a HUGE victory for BOTH of us. Does that make sense?

Yes the idea is that it is

Yes the idea is that it is healthy but at the same time it is boring. So if they refuse to eat what you make claiming they don't like it than don't five them something that is junk and/or something they want just b/c they want it you give the sandwich. That way you know if they REALLY don't like something or if they are just saying so to get what they want. Once we started doing this they learned that they were only going to get a pea nut butter sandwich and you should how much they eat of what I fix LOL.

Yes compromise does let the other person know that you do care and want to please them and make them happy so they are more willing to do the same for you.