So allow me to explain. I will (possibly) be marrying a man in 13days who is wonderful, I love him with everything I have and he is a great man. However he has a huge heart that doesn't allow him to want to see the wrongs of his life... My FH has two biological children and plays father to several of his ex's children. His biological son is 11yrs old and lives in the home w/ us, along w/ that he also has had custody of his sister who is not his bio child for a little over a year, she is 17 and opted to move w/ my future (maybe) husband b/c her mother was allowing a man to try and molest her w/out doing anything about it. My FH has a 6 year old little girl whom I love, but she does not stay w/ us. She has 5 other brothers and sisters who are not his children and 3 of them refer to him as daddy, call for things and expect him to really be their dad!!! That annoys the fire out of me but who am I to say stop parenting to these children. They are in bad situations living w/ their bio mom but she too believes that he has an obligation to take care of HER kids which floors me.. However the problem comes in w/ the 17 year old who is not his biological child but feels like she runs the house and she act grown. Now she and I have shared words on several different occasions but this last time it was as worse as I can allow it to get. She became totally enraged b/c I text messaged her at work to ask her why she would put the dirty clothes from the laundry room onto our bed. I though it was completely stupid of her to do such a thing considering they were dirty. This child goes completely off on me and curses me and everything once I had enough I told her I would allow my FH to handle it. So this is where it becomes dangerous he tells her to park the car, and turn her phone off for being disrespectful she comes in literally ready to fight me, so because my FH disciplined her she couldn't take it. She threw a purse at me called me all kinds of bitches, punched a hole in her wall, fought w/ my FH, and pulled a KNIFE on me!!!! YESSSSSS.... So I'm thinking to myself that she needs to go to juvie until she can figure out how to control her anger, FH and BIO mom act like I said string her by a tree and hang her. I have a 4year old son in the home who was not at home during all of this but will be back soon and I want out. I want out of the house but I want to remain w/ my husband. Under no circumstances will I put my child in an unhealthy enviornment. Especially since my FH is not trying to control it. I can see if she was bio child then I would feel obligated to make it work, but this kid is in no way blood to him and I told him if she stays I go. He pretty much tells me that she isn't going anywhere!!! So I have been on the hunt for an apartment for me and my son, and it makes my FH angry that I won't live here under these conditions. I don't know what to do considering we are supposed to get married in 13days I want to call the wedding off but I know that once SD (that really isn't SD) is out we will have a wonderful life.. I could tell soooooo much more but that is the just of it all.