Update to my son punched sd in the face 2
Hi everyone. Thank you for your past support. I haven't been on here much at all lately as things have been busy. I figured I owe you an update since you guys warned me about some things to watch out for.
I hired an attorney and the signed the papers for divorce but she hasn't been served yet. We have an air tight prenuptial so after I gave her the money for November's bills I was done with my commitments to her.
My son is doing great. Unfortunately he's spending more time with his mom and we no longer have 50/50 custody. Legally we do but he wants to be at his mom's more since his new neighbor is a hottie as he says. I go to his activities and we have dinner once a week and talk often but he wants to be with his girlfriend on the weekends. I offered his mother more child support but she said no. She wants him to live with me full time to get him away from the girl. Lol not really but she's struggling with limitations as are the girls parents. I'm talking to my son about being respectful and what not. So we shall see...
I've found a new place to live and move in on the 1st of December. I opted for a gated community condo. My coworkers are offering to decorate it for me since I'm a man. They have also been trying to set me up and I have been invited to many bbq's. Met some nice ladies and gotten a few phone numbers. I don't want to date until my ex is served so another week or two and I can ask out a really nice woman I was introduced to. She knows I'm going through a divorce and is okay with it. We talk a lot and she helped me find my condo to rent. Her kids are grown. She's a bit older than me and established. So that's good. Right???
So now for my ex update. She's decided her daughter is mentally ill and getting her help. They dropped the charges to assault and sd is going to plead guilty and get community service and receive counseling I believe. She has sent me many texts apologizing for her behavior and what she said and for her daughter. She wants me to go to counseling with them and even wants to include my son in it. I've spoken to her a bit but I've found that I no longer care for her. At all. I was so upset when this first happened and my heart was broke. Now? I don't trust her and I don't really like her. She keeps asking me back and promising things will be like before. She has asked how my son is and said she believes he was innocent and she wants to apologize to him. She said it took her loosing everything to understand how much my son and I ment to her. I told her it was to late and cut off contact. She is still trying but I want nothing to do with it.
So that's my update. Thank you for all the help you've given me. I will still come around I think. I love the post where you guys get all passionate. You crack me up.
THANK YOU AGAIN!
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Thanks. I've talked him about
Thanks. I've talked him about condoms and not making children.
I'm not sure how you raise
I'm not sure how you raise your children but my kid isn't allowed a power trip. He does what his mother and I tell him to do. I have no issue honoring his request. My son is respectful and not spoiled enough to think he can tell his old man how things will be. His mother is a good woman who will beat his ass if he thinks he can tell her what to do.
Thanks for the advice but my
Thanks for the advice but my son has no power. His mother and I hold all the cards. I am accepting of his need to be with his girlfriend. I was 15 once to. He asks permission he doesn't tell me or would he be allowed. I still see my son and we talk often.
Sounds like your Ex is
Sounds like your Ex is missing your bank balance.
Don't date until you are ready, spend this time getting you and your ds in to a more stable environment.
I'm a woman and I still have
I'm a woman and I still have to have my friends come decorate for me. Two friends in Texas who have done this for me before have already volunteered to fly in to fix up the new house.
I'm not interested in dating
I'm not interested in dating someone with underage children or someone who wants them. I understand that may mean going older but older woman are more secure right? Less crazy?
"I've found I no longer care
"I've found I no longer care for her. At all. " I suspect if someone messed with one of my kids in this harmful manner, my love would die too. Best of luck, it sounds like you're doing GREAT! Your son too. Tip from a woman with a grown son: Talk to him about CONDOMS. I may be Catholic, but I'm also realistic.
I feel that is what happened.
I feel that is what happened. I went from head over heels to nothing. I never expected that.
It's weird how it can turn on
It's weird how it can turn on a dime. People tell you who they are - just watch and listen. It was almost in an instant for me. My exH said something so disrespectful that I was just stunned and devastated. I realize that he was never sorry for anything he had done or said. And I was nothing to him. Flip switched. There was no going back. I get it.
Hope all works out for you!
Thank you for your update!
Thank you for your update! It is great to see you're sorting out your lives. Your ex is reaping what she sowed. She brought this on herself and she is paying the consequences - one helluva life lesson! Hope she learns so she doesn't treat the next man that comes along, the same way.
I laughed when I read about your Son! Boys and hormones..hahaha..also happy to see that he is respectful and asks permission - spoilt, entitled kids don't do that - they just expect it. My son is the same - he will ask first and he is 16..if he wasn't given permission, he may not like it, but he'l accept it.
As for the love no longer being there? Well, being such a horrible bitch towards your Son when he was clearly defending himself, will do that to you. It opened your eyes and you now see her for what she is. Good on you for cutting all contact - I'd do exactly the same.