Please give me some advice. I'll try to make this short. I've been married to my husband for 3 years and have been in my step kids life since they were 2&4. Both of them love me to death and with me not being able to have children of my own.......ugh.....I'd easily lay down my life for them. I love them as if they were my own. Their father and I r military and haven't been able to be fully apart of their lives like we would love to but we face time and call often. I'd say at least a few times a week. We get them for their breaks and holidays and we love it. It's been simple with us. I'm their step mom and they call me by my nickname. However the kids mom has married and has spoken with the kids about calling their new step dad "dad". She originally mentioned this to me because their father was in training. I was completely floored by this. My father passed away when I was 12 and I had a step dad but I NEVER called him dad. I knew who my dad was and nobody would take his place. Well now with her telling me that she has been encouraging them to call her husband dad because she wants to be a family; which I completely understand that but I highly disapprove of them calling her husband dad. With that being said, my husband, the kids father, isn't happy with it either but he feels that he has given the children no other choice but to call another man dad because he isn't with them. It's sad that he blames hisself like that and because of that he has done everything he can to get stationed closer to them. This resulting in him getting out of the army before he wanted to just so he could be around them more. He obviously loves them dearly. I am still torn. When they visit and they talk about mommy and daddy I have to assume they Aren't even talking about their own father. It's horrible. I hate it in so any ways. I don't want to say anything because I know this is what works for the kids but I'm so scared their real father will be slowly discarded. Do I just mind my business?