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OT, but not. Rejected again! (vent)

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Submitted by nengooseus on Fri, 07/21/2017 - 9:06am

Ugh. I know why this stuff bothers me, but I can't seem to stop it.

DH's dad "refused to take sides" in his divorce. BM keeps him in her back pocket by taking the skids to see him maybe once a year, usually when we're in a court process and she feels like it will hurt him. DH's dad is fully complicit and chooses to go along, so DH has chosen not to have anything to do with him.

But now she's done it again. She's taken the skids to see him, and of course, the skids are reporting that BM and DH's dad talked smack about us the whole time. I hate that for the skids, but I hate the feeling of rejection that I feel. Realistically, I know that DH has done the rejecting, but I know that BM feels like they've rejected me and feels superior, as a result. And all of it plays into my issues with my own parents, too.

The only connection these people have to us at all at this point is the skids, too, which is dialing up my resentment against them again, too.

And to top it all off, I'm crying at my desk at work because I can't go home because the skids are there!

At least it's 5 PM in Mogadishu by now... It's OK to drink!

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Submitted by Acratopotes on Fri, 07/21/2017 - 9:14am

it's beer o clock on Mars as well...... skip the beer Hon straight to wine...

now, try this.... every time the skids tells you something about BM or FIL, smile and say.. we are not talking about people who's not here, it's gossip.. or Kiddo's we are not interested in what BM and Gran has to say, stop gossiping it's a very ugly trade mark in people.

then take everything with a pinch of salt and divide it by 100... kids can feel and see it upsets you and DH, thus they might add tails to the stories.... it's normal for manipulative people... they see you are not feeling well and they keep on pushing the buttons.

Now finish off the bottle of wine I send over, wash your face... go home and take control of your house, skids only visit, it's your house dammit, take control... start tonight by telling them stop gossiping, not interested in your mothers doings... talk to DH about things you and him have in common...

I know you can do this... just take control