They were out,they came back. I'm 39 y/o and BF is 51. The SS are 24 and 30. The ss24 goes to school and work. The ss30 dont do ANYTHING and BF always brags about how he raise them (he has 4 kids)to be MEN. Tuesday nite BF went to work and I went to get chinese food for me. At the time wasn't no one here but me. I didn't eat all the chinese food I was going to take rest of it to work. The next morning I gets up and my food was gone. I was pissed off!!! SS(30) eats my food and didn't have decency to ask. He is jobless and broke but where is the RESPECT.I told BF about while I was still @ home and he told me to go ask who ate it. I told him whats the point it was gone now and thats no the issue. He totally disrespected me by doing that. I know some of you saying that I'm making a big issue about food but it's the principal. That night my BF asked him and he came and apologize. BF is truly a good man but everything thats glitters isnt gold. We've been together for 4 yrs and during those 4 yrs his kids ALWAYS needed money. HIs other son (33) married with 2 kids stays out of state. His daughter (31) also stays out of state. Everyone expect the oldest calls dad for help. He told me from the beginning that his previous marriages had a problem with him doing for his kids. Hell I see why? When they were younger I can understand him doing for them BUT now they all GROWN UP and there should be a limited. Am I wrong for feeling this way? Should I just let him spend and spend and just keep my mouth shut? We suppose to get marry next year and I'm not happy b/c I dont see these GROWN ASS MEN going anywhere and I don't want to start my marriage off like this. HELP!HELP!

I feel you but I don't have a problem with their mother. I've met her and she also remarried and what the hell can she say to me they kids are all GROWN. GROWN in age but not financially.

Stepberg, I've read alot of your comments and I was hoping you would comment on mines. You seems to be a smart and wise lady. I know, the ss(30) has a backgroung which prevents him for working.WHY did his dad bring him here knowing he wouldn't be able to contribute to the household expenses.

I think u have something here. Last night BF was very quiet and he said he has alot on his mind. I think he knows he made a mistake bring them here and things aren't turning out like he expecting they would. He don't know how to correct it and he don't won't want to feel like a failure as a parent.