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Submitted by Newstep on Sun, 12/09/2012 - 11:06am

Yesterday was SO's family Christmas party. It is always a really fun time and I really enjoy it. They all hated but tolerated BM so they are very happy that SO and I are together. SO's SD is always included and treated just like family there is no difference at all. But she always brings the drama just like her mother. One year she had a melt down because the party was going on and it was too hard for her not having her mom there at the party. She made a scene and was sobbing so all the aunts had to comfort her. SO told her to pull it together or she could leave and she straightened right up. Last year it was something else again having to do with her mother. This year she was upset yet again!! She just had her first baby a week ago and this was the first time we would be seeing her. She got upset because SO didn't run to her and sit and hold the baby. So upset she went off and cried. Again the aunties try to make it all better by trying to make SO hold the baby at that moment so She wouldn't be upset. I was proud of SO he told the to back off he was going to say hi to everyone and then sit and hold his granddaughter.

SD came back in the room and acted just fine because no one person played her little game. Go figure if you don't feed the drama it will just fizzle out all on its own.

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Newstep's picture

Submitted by Newstep on Sun, 12/09/2012 - 11:32am

I know she acts like it. Unfortunately all 3 of them take after there mother in the drama department. I have never in my life met people who can't have a moment without DRAMA!!!!

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Submitted by dontcallmestepmom on Sun, 12/09/2012 - 1:34pm

DH's 3 kids are exactly the same way, and at their ages (19, 20, 23), it only gets worse. And I do not understand where it comes from, because BM is not this way, and neither is DH.

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Submitted by oldone on Sun, 12/09/2012 - 12:38pm

Whoa - I could just see how my aunts would have handled that. My mother was from a large family (I had 8 aunts) and none of them put up with any drama. She would not have been comforted as an adult causing drama.

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Submitted by midnyt on Sun, 12/09/2012 - 6:14pm

Wow, I thought SD must have been young too until I read the bit about having her first baby, not that her being young would have made it any more acceptable, maybe understandable but not acceptable. It might be slightly different for me because my parents are still together but if I had done that in public my mum would have given me "the look" and that would have been enough to make me stop!
My SS, when he was still coming here, had the tendency to throw shit fits and start crying when things werent going his way, even in front of my whole family last year at our holiday house, my mum comforted him not realizing that he was upset coz he didnt get what he wanted (a can of coke) my theory which I learned from my mum was that tantrums very rarely last long when they dont attract attention, so I was ignoring it all and getting filthy looks from my mum until i explained what was going on. SS ended up calling SO's mum to come get him, once he knew they were on the way he perked right up and tears stopped......