This situation is getting VERY SCARY for my stepdaughter!
It didn’t take long for things to get ugly and this is EXACTLY what we were afraid of! (Reference blog entitled “does anyone else find this to be very strange?”) My husband got a phone call last night from SD6’s new stepfather (the convicted felon that her mom just married just two months ago) and he was telling my husband that SD’s mom is living in a crazy environment, that he no longer lives there, that biomom has people “after her” and that she has been hiding out, having “body guards” escorting her to and from places and has been getting different rental cars to shield her identity…all while she drives SD6 around with her in the back seat….then the new husband proceeds to tell my husband that she takes spankings too far and doesn’t discipline her but actually hits her out of anger and frustration like she is a grown woman…remind you she is 6 years old! He went on to tell him A LOT of other CRAZY…so today we find out that she has a Temporary Protection Order against her husband and that they (she and SD6) have left their home and are staying with family/friends b/c she fears that the husband is stalking her…on one of the police reports, the caller says “You’d better send someone over here quick or someone is going to end up dead”…We are VERY WORRIED about her safety and will be contacting our attorney first thing Monday morning! Also, I’m so mad at her for putting her in this type of predicament all so she can “have a man” in her life…if you recall, he has a record a mile long, Domestic Violence, Stalking, Harassment, Aggravated Robbery, Burglary you name it!!! And the DV/Stalking and Harassment are all from his first two wives and a few old girlfriends he last divorce was just final less than a year/year and a half ago and she had DV/Stalking charges on him…the kicker is that biomom has been with him since about April of 2004 since before the last divorce was final and he has been to jail since they’ve been together so knowing all this…WHY WOULD MARRY HIM TWO MOTHS AGO and put SD6 in this type of household?! UUUGGGGHHHH! Keep us in your prayers, we know we have a big time battle ahead…
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You are in my thoughts!
I can't believe the selfishness of this woman, and the frustration you must be feeling right now. What amazes me is that you two have a wonderful home, and this breeder doesn't even think once about sending her child over to dad's until her situation becomes stable. I never get that. Why shuttle this poor child from once couch to another, and disregard the bedroom she has at dad's. Is she afraid it might "look" as though she is unstable, and dad won't have to return child to mom?
Oh, and another, is she that desperate to look within a felon to have a grasp at marriage? Does she not have any confidence in herself to attain a good man of character? Oh I get it, she doesn't have good character, so of course she wouldn't see a good man if he was standing on her toes...(why are these women always the first to have kids?)
I hope your attorney has good news for you...I'm just a skeptic to the system. BM in our situation moves all the time for various reasons, and we could never win custody when he was younger. Now that he is hell on wheels, now she wants to send him over to our house to "fix" his problems (I don't really view them as his problems, rather than the problems she created).
Good luck Nise...I will be praying for you! I hope you can find a way to actually sleep tonight...
Candice
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Am I reading this right...the man that she's supposedly running from is the one who clued you all in to this? It kind of sounds to me like he may have disagreed with her parenting habits and she used his past as an excuse to run and get attention for herself. What's really going on?
*~So sayeth Nymh~*
Yes he is the one who called
Yes he is the one who called my husband and alerted him to the fact that they were having problems….I do not doubt for ONE MINUTE that this guy has her on the run for legitimate reasons…we went down this morning and got copies of the Dispatch Reports of the altercations they had on the 15th and 17th and we already knew, from another source, that this guy was abusive to her…so what I think is going on is that she got the TPO on him…..of course not the first time he’s hit her b/c anyone who would marry someone with this type of history will not get the TPO on the first incident of abuse…so it must have been pretty bad that he beat her up this last time! Especially when one of the calls to 911 is from a male (we are assuming her brother) who said “get someone out here or someone is going to end up dead”….so we think that her husband calling my husband was her husband’s way of “getting back at her” for getting the TPO b/c he also told my husband all the ways she plans to defraud the court in our upcoming Child Support hearing and that she’s made money that she doesn’t plan on reporting and also her husband’s mother runs the day care center that SD6 attends and we think that she was planning to get fraudulent daycare receipts to make it look like she pays more then she does (now I bet that is off now that her and husband are feuding)….it is a LOT of stuff….but long story short (too late….) we believe he was trying to get back at her by telling us all this info and get us to “stick it to her” in CS court….but our main thing right now is that SD6 SHOULD NOT be fleeing HER HOME running around the city hiding from anyone!!! She should be in a safe environment until her mom can get her life together!
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Can you get any of this in
Can you get any of this in writing from him....especially before they kiss & make up....? It may help get SD6 one step closer to getting out of that environment and into your home.
I doubt that he would put
I doubt that he would put anything in writing…he’s not a “friend of the court system” if you know what I mean…but we do have copies of the police reports and have sent all the info to our attorney this morning…hopefully we can act quickly!
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Do you have an update from the attorney?
I really curious to know what your attorney said. I seen and heard so many instances where bm's can be homeless and dad's still can't get custody. It really frustrates me. I think you are handling this great. My heart goes out to you and dh!
I’m so nervous right now
I’m so nervous right now that it is kind of hard to type this….I just got of the phone with my sister-in-law who told us some additional information and we are TRULY scared to death! I spoke with the attorney this morning and it just so happens that she knows the character of step-dad….she defended his last ex-wife in divorce proceedings…so she is going upstairs to talk with biomom’s attorney and see if they cannot work out an emergency change amongst themselves…that was before I talked to my SIL (who didn’t know any of this was going on) well she just so happened to call a friend of hers today to ask a favor of him….his stepfather is biomom’s uncle and he told my SIL (he didn’t realize that she wasn’t aware of the goings on) that they (the family) are acting as her body guards and they have GUNS and are escorting her to and from wherever she needs to be…this is why Every other Weekend is BULLSHIT! This situation has been going since before the husband called my husband and we are just now finding out about it! Apparently she has been in hiding for about a week in a half (mind you we only see SD EOW) so we wouldn’t have found out anything until this coming weekend if he hadn’t called or my SIL’s friend hadn’t let it slip! So I’ve been calling our attorney since I got back from lunch to tell her that 24hrs is tooo long to wait and we want SD in our custody TONIGHT! There is not telling what could happen in 24hrs (she wanted to give her attorney that time to contact her and make an arrangement.) I could just cry right now! I’m so angry, hurt, afraid….my husband is nearly powerless to protect his daughter and an emergency hearing for temporary custody can take up to 10 days to get!
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I HOPE your attorney makes progress
I truly hope that both attorney's can make progress in this situation. I know that not all attorney's are bad, and hopefully bm's attorney will talk some sense into her head!
I cannot imagine how your are feeling right now, I haven't experience this bad of situation (I know the general feeling of anger b/c of the system). I am so praying for you right now, and your sd. I really wish that father's had more power to protect their children! I know both you and your dh are doing everything to provide stability, love, and safety for both girls, I just wish you could go pick her up RIGHT NOW!
Have faith that the attorney's will do their best to talk some sense into bm's thick head, and hopefully make some progress. Maybe if bm knew dad couldn't get custody permanently b/c of this, she would release sd to you guys. I am praying for you!
I wish there was more I could do for you Nise!