Husband chose his daughter over me
My husband (of 1 year) was chose to go on a trip to Alaska. It is a trip of a lifetime. He can only take one person with him. He chose his youngest daughter(17 ) to go instead of me. But she Is in school and cannot go. So now I am elected to go and I am feeling very sad. This is not the first time this has happened either. I never had kids and I’m not good at dealing with them. He has four kids with his first wife. Only one of the four pretends to like me. The other three Do not hide the fact that they do not like me. I love my husband dearly, but this whole situation is turning me into a person I don’t like!
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Be prepared to live a
Be prepared to live a lifetime of this.
Wait, your bio says you fell in love with him before you even knew he had kids. What is THAT about? He lied about it? Hid it from you?
He sounds like a real peach,
He sounds like a real peach, did he take one of his kids in your honeymoon instead of you also?!
Personal opinion... Unless it
Personal opinion... Unless it's taking the kid on a trip as some kind of award and they just need an adult with them... (even that I think should be RARE, if at all, not the norm) I think you take the spouse.
I'm sorry :( No one likes to feel like an afterthought.
Be prepared to be in Alaska
Be prepared to be in Alaska viewing amazing scenery and have him say SD would have loved this.
I'm thinking he can just take
I'm thinking he can just take a buddy. Or maybe his ex.
I certainly would not be going.
What did he say when you
What did he say when you asked "Why did YOU decide NOT take me"
You asked him, right?
Did I miss something? I was
Did I miss something? I was expecting to read that you told your husband no when he invited you. It is clear that you are only going because his first choice isn't available.
By going you are teaching him that making you a choice instead of a priority is perfectly fine.
How do you fall in love with
How do you fall in love with someone BEFORE knowing how many kids they have?
Do you have kids is one of the 1st questions you ask when getting to know a man.
So what did you say to him
So what did you say to him when you got the 2nd place prize? Did you ask him why he thought taking his kid instead of his wife was ever an option?
Pretty sure I’d not be going.
Pretty sure I’d not be going. I can be second choice to everyone else, but not my life partner.
I wonder how the other 3 kids
I wonder how the other 3 kids felt about her being chosen as well, is she the favorite?
Let him know you have other plans during that time.
Oh, I'd go on the trip, enjoy
Oh, I'd go on the trip, enjoy the hell out of it, then move out when I got back home. That situation will never be any different and you will kick yourself later if you stay.
That's what I was thinking. I
That's what I was thinking. I wouldnt turn down an (I'm assuming free?) trip, but i wouldnt make myself a joy to be there with for him. Find someone "more important" than him to be texting, calling etc the whole time.
If this doesn't show you
If this doesn't show you where your place is in his life...............I don't know what will........
Wow...., I'm sorry that
Wow...., I'm sorry that happened :(
But I am also curious to know what his response was when you told him what an a** he is? What possible reason he had for showing you that you come firmly second best ?