So, if you've followed my blog before, you'll know that I emailed BM1 and we had a GREAT conversation and I thought we were off to a great, fresh start! Think again!!

In the email, BM1 had stated that I'll know how she feels one day when I have my child. Well, yes I agree with that, but the statement that bothered me the most is when she said "because you gave birth to that child and you don't want anyone else calling them or thinking they are their Mother." Yes, once again, I agree! And it's not something I've EVER done as she knows. BUT what she did was when she first started dating my FDH, he had a newborn son. She called him her son, in all of his baby books she would write "mommy and SS7" or "mommy loves you!" "mommy and daddy with SS7" and on and on and on. She even taught him to call her "Mommy." I always told my FDH that I didn't agree with that because he had his own Mother and she didn't need to be pretending, I understood why SS7's BM hated her! So it's so hypocritical that she would even say that! That ticked me off ALOT!

So back to my point here .. thought we were off to a fresh start, and she has to go and email my FDH about me coming to SD4's Back to School night tonight! This was her email:

Are you planning to bring her to SD4's back to school night tonight?

I think for things like her school conferences and parties and stuff during the middle of the day for daycare and school it is only necessary for you and I to go. Obviously our spouses will be attending programs and extracurricular activities and stuff like that, but for some stuff it is not necessary to have 4 different people attend for her. I think we should keep in touch and check in with each other when things come up. You and I are her actual parents and there are some things that I think are appropriate for only you and I to go to.

Really? So when I have my own child one day am I supposed to go to all of their activities and stuff because they're my "actual" child and then not to go any of my stepchildren's things? That's not fair! I will be treating my future birth child exactly the same as my stepchildren! I'm not leaving anyone out! I love my step-children and want to be there for them and let them know that I support them in everything they do. Back to School Night is important, it's stupid for FDH to just come home and relay everything to me, I should just be there, show my support for SD4 and find out everything about her school! I do her little projects with her, I pick her up from school, I deserve to be there! And FDH even told her she should bring her FDH and she goes "well you know he works out of town so he can't come to stuff like this." Well who's fault is that? Not ours! So I shouldn't come to stuff just because he can't??? GRRRRRRRRRRR!