You are here

He's actually that stupid...OT

noidea1010's picture

Submitted by noidea1010 on Sat, 03/15/2014 - 11:46pm

Now maybe I'm overreacting, however, how would you ladies react to finding that your SO after getting pissy with you (http://www.steptalk.org/node/180952) went to the bar, met up with a mutual friend, who is a girl, then she and her friend came back to his place to drink some more and play some cards?

He did nothing to hide it, at least, but sure didn't offer it up the first time I talked to him this morning.

I was/am livid, because had I done this??? Holy hell, I would be one of the "stupid girls" who gets herself into bad situations. When I ask him how he would like it if I had done it, his reaction? "Oh sure, now you're going to do it on purpose!" I gave him a WTF look and straight up said I wasn't fucking BM or anyone else he's been dating. We have been dating for close to two years, never played games on him, and he fucking thinks I'm going to start now?!

Quite honestly I think he broke a trust. I trusted him not to be so fucking stupid.

Comments

moeilijk's picture

Submitted by moeilijk on Sun, 03/16/2014 - 2:20am

In my mind, there are only two reasons to do that.

1. He was looking for someone - not you - to have fun/sex with.
2. He wants you to think he's looking for someone else.

So he's a cheater or a game-player. Or really immature. I don't think I could be happy with someone with any of those qualities. I'd feel like a nag or as though I always have to be checking up on my partner - so for me, that wouldn't be much of a partnership.

Not the Brady Bunch's picture

Submitted by Not the Brady Bunch on Sun, 03/16/2014 - 7:31am

Actions speak louder than words. When the actions don't match the words, you got a prick and probably a cheater. His daughter has a mom; you are not her stepmom--even if you were, the word speaks for itself--"skidz step on step mom". Spending time with your SO should not include his kid. If he can't make you a priority now, you will NEVER be the priority. Speaking from experience and some sort of wisdom. Run before you make a baby with an immature a**hole. Find a man (preferably W/O kids) with a higher level of reasoning so you can have a better future. Better yet. Enjoy time with yourself, find interests, hobbies, supportive friends then the right man will come along.

JustAgirl42's picture

Submitted by JustAgirl42 on Sun, 03/16/2014 - 9:16am

Lol...^^This^^.

Is it possible that he made this up to try and make you jealous?

omgsaveme's picture

Submitted by omgsaveme on Sun, 03/16/2014 - 9:19am

I woulda karate chopped him in the neck. You should ask him the girls name and phone number so you can ask her what they did, if she truly exists.

noidea1010's picture

Submitted by noidea1010 on Sun, 03/16/2014 - 9:32am

We are both friends with one of the women, we are on a team together on Sunday nights. I like her, however....I keep going back to what I know and that's "men don't invite women home from bars" without ulterior motives.

He says, he didn't look at it from my way, won't do it again. Yeah...do i have to tell you not to stick your finger in the electrical socket as well?

hereiam's picture

Submitted by hereiam on Sun, 03/16/2014 - 9:36am

So, he brought 2 women home to drink. Only single men do that, whether actually single or emotionally single.

No matter what the reason; he was mad, he trying to make you jealous, whatever, nobody needs these type of games in an adult relationship, especially 2 years in.

hereiam's picture

Submitted by hereiam on Sun, 03/16/2014 - 9:40am

He says, he didn't look at it from my way

That does not help his case at all! He shouldn't have had to think about it, should have been a no-brainer.

not2sureimsaneanymore's picture

Submitted by not2sureimsanea... on Sun, 03/16/2014 - 12:47pm

Walk. This guy is playing games with your head to make you insecure. Unless he recognizes, admits to, and tries to change, this will not get better because he will be pushing the limit until it's, "YOU made me cheat."