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noidea1010's picture

Why do I continue to let myself put in the middle of SO and SD? Literally, on his crappy couch. Something I have fought before, but apparently still hasn't gotten through his thick head.

Why do I let SD12 work me up? By telling me, while I'm playing with my dog, that I can leave because my dog doesn't need me there anymore. Where I am forced to be the "adult" and not get up and literally show her who has my dogs' loyalties.

Why did i feel the need to show SD12 that flopping on the couch was annoying? Which then lead to the breaking wood sound when I flopped on the couch to demonstrate. UGH!!!!

And the fact that I am so pissed off at myself for not leaving numerous times during the night....I hate hindsight.

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oncechoosetosmile's picture

must be annoying.Glad I left ex SO and his mini-wife daughter SD 8 a little while ago.I still come here at times to remind myself it was the right decision and have a far more peaceful life.

whatwasithinkin's picture

Hey just so you know my SD had a counselor and DH and I paid him a visit alone one time. (it truly was like a come to Jesus meeting for him) But that spot you found yourself in you know right smack dab in the middle, that was a couselor recommendation. (you always sit next to your wife, walk next to your wife it sends a clear message to your daughter that your wife is YOUR wife. YOUR choice exact words to my husband.

And that attitude Foxie is talking about is the exact attitude that I was told to have by the same exact counselor. Things may never be good between SD and I but she knows ONE THING she has been taught it twice in the time I have known her. I will be first, I will be his wife. Your welcome to be part of our life as his child and my step daughter. But you will never be the other adult in our relationship. I am on this level you are on that level. You will leave and I well I will remain. When you can be an adult and interact with respect then you may come back but the minute your out of line your gone and it will be your choice to leave.

Foxie is right

whatwasithinkin's picture

The message of: he created you, he is your father, he will always love you but may not like you from time to time, he has to he is your father. I on the other hand, well he CHOSE to love me. And I have a choice with you...

SteelRose's picture

Haha, this discussion is great! Foxie, I always love your comments!

One time ss20 actually asked DH what he saw in me. DH said that is something he would not discuss b/c it's a heart matter and he chose me and will not unchoose me b/c of whether or not ssons don't like me.